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Have you made further changes due to new restrictions

chloe40
chloe40Administrator

of Covid?

I'm finding it difficult now, it's hard to keep upbeat when you have al this to cops with on top of grief, how are you managing?

Chloe <3

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Greyone
GreyoneVolunteer

I am starting to feel a little concerned. We have gone to high which is a bit stricture but my local is still open and i am only too happy to book a table for a few hours of fun. It makes me realise that we need to respect and value more what we have.

What actually makes me feel better is all of those people that don't end up on the floor of the public highway, drunk like crazy late at night. They make me ashamed to be a member of the human race.

I do feel sorry for all those people who cannot get themselves going upwards in any way for many reasons. They do deserve more help. As well as all those people commitments who may be unemployed soon, all the business that will be closed and how our lives and communities will be changed forever.

And now i am sad again...

chloe40
chloe40Administrator in reply to Greyone

Try and stay positive Greyone

We'll get through this as we did before <3

Greyone
GreyoneVolunteer in reply to chloe40

Thanks to your leadership and inspiration!

Greyone
GreyoneVolunteer in reply to chloe40

Its funny you should say that because yesterday i got a letter from my council about shielding because we've moved to Very High (- not as bad as others i know) and reminding me of the purpose of shielding ,telling me not to mix too much etc. So it came as a timely reminder.

But apart from that the days are ok and i am keeping my little pecker up and i am sure you are too.

catgirl1976
catgirl1976 in reply to Greyone

I'm glad that we didn't actually book anything as that would have hurt a lot worse than what has happened.

chloe40
chloe40Administrator in reply to catgirl1976

Yes, indeed it would have <3

catgirl1976
catgirl1976 in reply to chloe40

What we decided to do is to lay off making plans in advance and booking anything until things are more settled as it feels the best thing to do is to save ourselves the upset and not bother!

Perhaps when things are more stable we will see about booking in advance again but for now I feel the best thing to do is not bother myself.

From this Friday here in Wales at 6pm there will be a full national lockdown for everyone in the country for a couple of weeks with the same kinds of restrictions like there were back in March as shops like primark will be shut and you can only go out for essential things like for food, for medical care and to work if you can't work from home and pubs and restaurants will be shut again like they were in March but takeaways will still be open and you can still go out for daily exercise like you could in March.

I wasn't surprised though when this was announced and I was bloody glad that we hadn't booked any lunches out and I was sorry for the poor people who have and will be getting told that they are cancelled as I think its worse when you are led to believe you are getting something only to be told at the last minute no you aren't rather than going without altogether and having to wait as with having to wait its aggravating but nothings been lost.

chloe40
chloe40Administrator in reply to catgirl1976

Oh my Hidden

I've just heard this and I was sorry to think about all of you having to go through this again, I'm much the same but 2nd tier, might just as well be lockdown, hardly any difference.

Stay strong

<3

catgirl1976
catgirl1976 in reply to chloe40

I think the lockdowns will be on and off from now on myself.

It's such difficult times,when I heard Boris on friday ..I cried.I'm an emotional wreck really....I live in the south so not as bad as other parts of the country at the moment.!

I cried back in September when the local lockdowns were announced so you're not the only one as it felt like a smack in the face hearing that!

It just feels so negative at the moment and an unknown future.

chloe40
chloe40Administrator in reply to Sandradsn

I feel exactly the same Sandra and these dark wet days are not improving my mood either, so I have decided to find as many activities that I may like to hand.

I'm going to try watercolour pencils, I've always liked the idea, so I'll give that a go.

All ideas welcome.

Keep your chin up <3

Sandradsn
Sandradsn in reply to chloe40

That's a great idea Chloe,let us know how you get on with the watercolours.

chloe40
chloe40Administrator in reply to Sandradsn

I will Sandra for sure x

chloe40
chloe40Administrator

I agree Sandradsn

I was and still am feeling pretty down about about it all myself, but what you and I must not do is become emotionally upset, we have enough to do looking after our selves each day, so please stay strong and if you need a little cry then that's okay but try to distract yourself as much a s possible. {{{hugs}}}

Chloe<3

Sandradsn
Sandradsn in reply to chloe40

I'm not watching the news this week.

I find myself tearful about all sorts of random things...a complete strangers housemove,garden rescue programme on tv,watching a baby in a cafè.!

The tears over little things are a symptom of distress over covid as it's one of the many things in life we can't change.

I’m in a terrible place , my grief is overwhelming & I’m desperately lonely. I don’t have any family nearby & very few friends...I just need a friend who is also struggling so we could help each other but there’s no groups with all the restrictions. I feel so alone & tearful every day

chloe40
chloe40Administrator in reply to KT22

Hello KT22

Welcome to our community.

You're not alone, we are here for you and you'll always find others in the same situation as you <3

It's an extremely difficult time for all of us, especially if we have no family with us. The restrictions are making life particularly hard right now for so many, and although we cannot meet in person, we are here meeting people from all over the world and that is wonderful!

So feel free to chat away, tell us what's on your mind and we'll get to know each other<3

Chloe

Sandradsn
Sandradsn in reply to KT22

I'm so sorry KT22 that you are lonely whilst going through your grief.I'm thinking of you.

Hi Chloe,

I’ve tried online forums but, sadly they’re not for me. Thank you for replying though.

chloe40
chloe40Administrator

No problem of course, the choice is yours<3

Most days I simply don’t want to carry on I’m so isolated & heartbroken with grief.

chloe40
chloe40Administrator

I suggest you contact your Doctor and explain how you're feeling and please do ask for a referral to a Bereavement Counsellor or Therapist.

You can also contact jo@samaritans.org or call tel:116 123 if you feel in need.

Take good care of yourself <3

Thank you, I’m already on medication, my doctor is aware how I feel & I’ve had bereavement counselling through Cruse, it made me even more distraught.

I guess I’ll just have to live with my loneliness until Covid allows face to face groups again.

kenster1
kenster1Volunteer

its getting harder for most of us now next week we are getting the tier system here coming into force on the 1st of November and my region has the worst in Scotland meaning we will be in the highest tier.I`m just desperate for to be able to do basic things we take for granted and visit my aunt indoors.feeling a bit depressed but that could be because I quit smoking but as long as I`ve got the hills I can escape the closing in feelings.

chloe40
chloe40Administrator

It certainly is hard Kenny kenster1

I'm finding it more difficult this time than originally but what can we do, I think the mental health of all of us have taken a dive this year.

Congratulation that your still 'fag free' great achievement.

You are lucky having those hills close by, I for one envy you!

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