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Check in with Chloe

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Hi Friends,

Time again to catch up on your news.

How have you been managing these past weeks?

I'd love to hear from you!

Chloe <3

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just my usual up and down self Chloe as usual don`t like the summer dreading lots of warm weather.hope all is well with you.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to kenster1

Hi Kenny,Good to hear from you.

Why don't you like warm weather, is it the association with loss or?


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kenster1Volunteer in reply to chloe40

just warm weather brings out the worst in some people more so in a small village where I live too much alcohol.

Hi Chloe,I've been feeling a bit down.Usual worry over my eldest son..relationship, money job.My husband slowly recovering from hip surgery, next one due in 6 weeks.🙄Summer we would always go to my mums for weekends as she lived at the coast.

Things have changed so much in 2 years.

Hope you are well and doing ok? x

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Sandradsn

Hello Sandra,Oh dear, I had hoped life was looking up a bit for you, so sorry to read your news.

You have so much going on at home Sandra, I really hope you can take some time for yourself, even short trips out to hairdressers etc., you need a lift

💗Our children really can be a worry ay times {{{hugs}}}

Hoping your husband has a steady recovery.

I can imagine those weekends are much missed along with your dear Mum.

Chloe <3


How have you been feeling?

This post popped up when I was having deep feelings about my loss. Memories are so beautiful but the pain and empty feeling can come back out at any time.

I've had a rough couple days of emotional upset. My sister's words to me " hold your head up high" kept coming to my mind 😢

This am I heard wind chimes in the house. There is a connection between wind chimes and my sister. I was in the room where I have 3 wind chimes they were not moving. I have two wind chimes outside, They weren't moving as there was no wind.

I know she was here, I could feel her. A sign telling me I'm going to make it


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chloe40Administrator in reply to Dolphin14

Hello Dolphin,I'm sorry you're feeling so sad at this time

💗You're absolutely right when you said these feelings pop up out of nowhere, it's an emotional rollercoaster, and not many acknowledge that. Just when we think we are 'living with our loss' up it comes again, but, there will come a time when you will be able to acknowledge the sadness without it overwhelming you.

Take comfort in the 'windchimes' only you know the feelings you experienced.

Sending love

Chloe <3

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Nathalie99 in reply to Dolphin14

Thank you for sharing, Dolphin, about the wind chimes. That is comforting and very precious.

You will make it <3

Love this story. Your sister is speaking with you. And giving good advice. ❤️

Today is 17 months since Cathy, my daughter, died. The 10th of each month is always a day of memorial and reflection. I miss her so much and wish I could talk to her again.

That’s how I am today.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to LilyAnnepuppy

Hello LilyAnnepuppy I cannot imagine the pain in your heart

💗 but I and sending huge {{{hugs}}} of support, now and always.


Sending support, LilyAnnepuppy...

Thinking of you with love Lily. Look for the baby bunnies. A sign of your daughter.

My ❤️ Is always with you


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Caza in reply to LilyAnnepuppy

I miss my daughters voice as well & her hugs. It’s such early days for you. Try not to get to stuck in rituals. I did the same it was heartbreaking. My acknowledgment of dates & times didn’t bring her back but it’s hard I know. Take care x

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LilyAnnepuppy in reply to Caza

Thank you for your words of wisdom, Caza. At least I’m not waking up every Sunday morning thinking about the call that she was dead anymore. So Some healing has happened. And is happening. It’s such a lonely road to travel.

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Caza in reply to LilyAnnepuppy

It certainly is. I found compassionate friends to be brilliant in the lonely & painful nights. I’ve made life long friends on the website. We meet up once a year or did before lockdown. Take a look. & completely understand about ‘The’ phone call. Everything would stand still on that day of the week but as I said it made not a scrape of difference to the outcome, so why put myself & everyone else around me through it x

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LilyAnnepuppy in reply to Caza

Exactly. I agree.


How are you?


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chloe40Administrator in reply to Dolphin14

Hi Dolphin,Thank you for asking 💗

I'm okay and I suppose I should be happy with that, but I feel I still need something? in my life.

I'm seriously thinking about a pet now but I have to be sure, a beautiful longhair is what I'd love. Too late for a dog, as my breathing wouldn't be up to the walks but I can dream.

You take care


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Dolphin14 in reply to chloe40

Pets are fabulous. Such wonderful support. I won't have any more pets. I have the love to give but my ❤️ cant handle the pain.

I think you would make a fantastic fur baby mom. Take your time and you will know in your heart it you can give your love to a pet. Please let us know if you do. I would love to see a picture if you decide to get one.

Loving kindness to you


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chloe40Administrator in reply to Dolphin14

Thanks so much Dolphin14 <3

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Caza in reply to chloe40

I took the plunge & got a puppy. He’s brought such a lot of fun & love into the house. I’ve always had dogs. Must admit I’ve found the puppy stage harder this time although he’s really good, physically I’m not so good. Had you thought of getting a rescue dog one that doesn’t need a lot of exercise.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Caza

Hi Caza Sorry to read you're not so good physically, I do hope things improve for you.

As much as I'd love that Caz, I don't think I could cope sadly <3

I am really enjoying my New job in a hospital pharmacy that I started in May and we enjoyed a few days away in Weston back at the end of May as well our first spring break away since 2019.

I have also joined the sports centre that is on the site where I work and I go swimming there a few times a week after work which I always look forward to!

I have made friends at my New workplace as well.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Catgirl1976

That's very good news Catgirl1976

Long may it continue <3

Hi chloe how are you? I'm still unable to realise my sister is no longer with us. Bruv in law really struggling but will be receiving bereavement councelling xx

Hi chloe, Things, for me, have been quiet and peaceful. I would say I'm waiting for "the other shoe to drop" but I'm trying very hard not to think this way. Living in the present is my new journey. I think of time wasted on things I cannot change, I do not want to live this way any longer. xgracy

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Caza in reply to gracy225

Very wise. I try to do the same x

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chloe40Administrator in reply to gracy225

Hi gracy225

So good to read that you're thinking so positively <3

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gracy225 in reply to chloe40

Thanks Chloe!

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