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[knowles8586]

Internet dating is full of men just wanting sex

[knowles8586]

had to get rid of that terrible photo

[Hidden in reply to knowles8586]

I think your very brave putting your photo up. I would be too afraid to as mine would scare people lol xxx

[Hidden]

Its horrible that youve had that experience, but Ive done internet dating for a while and I would agree that some men are only looking for that, but wherever you meet men there will be some who want that,,,, I have met some really nice men on dating site...... Whom I have had a relationship with, my last partner I met on the internet and he is lovely, sadly it hasnt worked out cos I dont want to move and his mother was an interfering old witch........ but he was lovely and definatley not just looking for sex..........

xxx

[knowles8586]

Is it my age? my weight< what Have I being doing wrong, made me feel very depressed

[Pickle165]

you havnt done anything wrong, its just theres some sick people in the world and you have to kiss a few frogs to find the right one. you say they only want sex, well if you get that impression about them then avoid them and id like to think that you wouldnt be intermate with them untill you was well into a relationship and new that they was not a complete doosh bag. x

[knowles8586]

I agree but when they ask to come to your house thats scary

[Hidden]

You have to be careful..... but howevery you meet someone, you have to be,,,, I think the best thing to do is meet for a coffee first during day....... its quite clear from someone if they just want sex...... If thats how they are then youre just not interested in them............ If someone wants a relationship and theyre nice they will wait for intimacy........ if they dont then theyre not worthy of you.

Unfortnaately you so have to kiss a lot of frogs as Sam 1981 says (not literally, you dont have to be intimate with a lot) YOu just have to be choosy..........

It doesnt always work out either, Ive just had to finish my relationship, but i wouldnt give up on internet dating, I think its a great way of meeing people........... but if you feel it is knocking your confindence at the minute then give it a rest, thats what I did when I felt like that............. spend some time on yourself and feeling good about you and then give it another go..........

Lots of Love and hope

Ker xxx

[knowles8586 in reply to Hidden]

I have been silly and hurt again, was talking to a guy for ages on POF who said his girlfriend was an alcoholic and was dieing. I met him once and hes defniately after sex

He now says hes with someone. think i must have been waiting for a fairy tale ending. So I cried my eyes out last night for again being so vulnerable

I have come off the dating site

and my anxiety is sky high

[knowles8586 in reply to knowles8586]

I always fall for the rats, dont think I really want him suppose I chatted because Im lonely. I have a good male and female friend who i see just miserable being on my own have been for 3 yrs

[Hidden]

Well its not all bad then

My friend finally found a good one internet dating ! So its possible. I guess its like walking in a bar, you get what you look for,

I always met my partners, in unusual places, when I wasn't even trying. Or via friends, I do wish you luck and don't give up, there's a good one for you somewhere out there !!!

I've also noticed if whilst single I worked on my self, my character etc. things seemed to come to me, as did my partner.

I'm lucky I'm not in the dating game, and haven't been for 15 years, thank god.

Wishing you well in your search

B

xxx

[Hidden]

Where are these men arf!

[knowles8586]

the good ones i dont no

[beebouncy]

you are right most only want sex ..

i met my partner now online and we have our ups and downs but been togethe 5.5 yrs

happy hunting there is someone waiting for you xx

[Hidden]

Believe me even when you have a good man & you suffer with anxiety , its very hard to be in a relationship

If it were me I would concentrate on getting well first as it will be double the work otherwise

We have to learn to love ourselves before we can even start to find & love someone else

Love

whywhy

xxx

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Spot on whywhy

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

I couldn't agree more xxx

[knowles8586]

think you probably right, just get lonely my family are miles away

[Hidden in reply to knowles8586]

I can empathise with that x

[fadedlizard]

I totally appreciate how lonely you get on your own and your depression and anxiety like to feed off that so you start to think their must be something wrong wih you. There isn't it's just anxiety presenting you with unhelpful thoughts that increase your depression.

I think it might help if you focus on getting out more and hopefully increasing your circle of friends. Find something that interests you and explore it and hopefully everything else will fall into place for you.

Good Luck.xxx

[knowles8586]

i was out yesterday with my two greyhounds at the greyhound trust. we meet up with our retired greyhounds for the dogs to run around