Worrying about my councelling appointment:(

[Millyr]

So I took your advise and went to see my schools councelling manager and i'm really worried. I'm afraid i'm going to forget how I feel and just look like i'm seeking for attention, someone help

[fadedlizard]

It's really stressful trying to get your head around first meetings like that, especially when you don't know what to expect.

I suggest making a list of all the things you want to say and taking it with you. Maybe even take two copies so you can give them one. Probably when you get there it'll be fine and you'll be able to chat openly but it'll give you something to guide you till you relax. Perhaps you could print off some of your posts from here as you've explained yr situation clearly to us.

They won't think you're attention seeking. It's not their job to judge you. They'll think you're being sensible and mature seeking help and support when you need it.

Good Luck,

Let us know how you get on.

Love

Lizard.xxx

[marcusvanbreugel]

Dear Millyr,

Well done for arranging councelling.

The fact that you write 'forget how i feel' suggests that you know how you feel, which is great. It toke me approximately a year and a bit of great councelling to be able to get in touch with how I feel a little bit.

I quite often or at least sometimes tell my councellor that i need a bit of time to work out how I feel during a session, and then i take a few minutes. And sometimes I can't work out how i feel and we talk about other things, and things become clearer to me at a later date or time. She is very very supportive.

I sometimes, when I can't quite get in touch with how i feel or put words to the feeling I show the councellor by making movements or act it out. Then sometimes I realise by what I have done(acted it out) and with the guidance of the councellor work out how i feel. I also just say to her that i have a headache or a pain in my chest or a pain in my left arm and them we go from there.

I write in an emotional diary on a daily basis which has helped a lot.

warmest regards,

Marcus xxx

[Hidden]

Don't worry Milly, your counsellor will not expect you to be full of confidence and s/he will wait for you to speak when you are ready,

You may find that once you get to know your counsellor you will be able to talk about anything and feel more at ease..

Remember s/he will have been a client too because all counsellors have to experience therapy themselves when in training.

I hope you will find it a positive experience, take a deep breath...your counsellor wants to help and support you, so go for it! Keep us up to date, really want to know how you get on. Warmest wishes

[Hidden]

Hi Milly

Well done taking the advise , i am so pleased as I no this will be a huge help

Try not to worry , remember its OK to say I am not sure or I dont no , we will have to come back to that one

Also I find they have a way that just gets us opening up , the flood gates just open

This is their job , they are used to it & will have dealt with so many anxious people , infact I feel they would be suprised if someone wasnt feeling anxious

Please keep letting us no how it goes , will be thinking about you

Love

whywhy

xxx

[Pickle165]

the fact that you have arranged councelling is a huge step in itself. these people are trained and have heard it all before so dont stress just tell them to bare with you as you find it hard to express yourself. dont worry you will probably feel alot better after like a weight has been lifted off of you. good luck not that you need it. xxxxxx

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Don't worry, I had the same fears, and went recently it is fine.....

X

[Lions13]

HI there,

As a therapist I can tell you that I still get nervous before the 1st session with a new person.

I worry about whether they will 'like' me - not really important, as we are in a professional relationship.

Whether they will turn up - if they don't nothing I can do about it,

If I will remember all 5 Factors on the 5 Factor Model - I did forget one of them in the very 1st session I delivered

Most of all I tend to worry about whether I will be able to help them. To date I have been very lucky as everyone that has come to see me has felt some improvement.

The forst few sessions can sometimes be a bit tentative, and that is perfectly okay. I always tell them, that it is their time and we will use it the way they want, but most importantly I ask them to keep themself safe. By this I mean don't talk about anything that is too raw, if they don't feel ready to do so.

The relationship is one of trust and that sometimes takes a few sessions to be built up.

Take your time and remember to trust in yourself.

take care and I hope it goes well for you.