I am having regular anxiety attacks since the loss of my mum i have had one visit to see a councellor cant wait to go back

but why do i convince myself that the attacks are going to harm me.

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Hi. toby and Welcome. Do you mean mentally or physically harm you? Neither. They are 'symptoms' pure and simple and do not have a long lasting effect other than making you feel rotten!! Which is bad enough. When you recover, and you will, you will realise that the feelings were fooling you into believing they could harm you. They tell you lies and believing lies does not make them true. Your mum's passing has 'sensitised' you so that all your feelings are exaggerated. I am so glad you are having counselling. "Can't wait to get back". Now that IS a good sign because it shows you have trust in him/her, very important. Bear up, it WILL come right. Regards. jonathan.

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Thankyou very much i feel so lonley even though i have my husband and girls im the strong one of the family they dont know what to say to me i cry alot wen i have an attack i get so angry with myself and so very frightened i know there is no quick fix but i think nearly all the time wen is the next attack goin to be.

[ellabella]

Hi there, I am sorry for your loss lovie. I'm glad you are getting counselling as well. Anxiety attacks are very frightening and if you ask for some simple breathing exercise's to practice and relaxation tips you will be surprised how much better you feel. I know they don't sound very helpful and I brushed them to one side for years as being of no use, but when I put my whole effort in I got so much relief it was staggering. When you get used to them , they will kick in automatically when you start feeling bad. Please try not to worry about the panics , they really can't do you any harm physically, hard to believe I know, but very true love. Keep coming on here and keep us updated Lots of Love and Hugs x Ella x

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Thankyou so much Ella for your kind words i have just woke up i needed to sleep my head was pounding i will keep comming on here as it makes me feel better knowing there are many people going through and understand what im going through xxxxx

[hamble99b]

hi your mind is trying to find answers to how you feel and you're having panic attacks,. don't get angry with yourself it's not something you can help at the moment.

You are grieving and everything hat was true for you has been shaken.

I lost my lovely Mum 5 years ago, she died whilst "shutting my eyes for five minutes", I wasn't there.It was naturally a huge shock and I'd find myself weeping whilst in the supermarket - only realising when I noticed the neck of my top was wet. grief takes many forms..

counselling does help. be kind to yourself.

regards,

sandra.

[bene449]

I find group like "eliminate panic attacks and anxiety" on facebook are really helpful. There are experienced counsellors there to give support.

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Thankyou i will check that out .

[Teddysmum43]

Hi there I lost my mum two years ago,it really is the most awful time,I'm still going through it really but not as bad as it was. I'm having counselling too ,it really does help. You feel like your going crazy but your not,grief can be a complicated process.xx

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Thankyou it is awful i think ive bottled it all up and carried on helping my sister and brother even though i am the youngest my brother lived with my mum so my heart went out to him even though i was hurting like hell. The counscellor said i have gone back to a child and need someone to look after me it is so very hard i miss her so much my heart hurts.xxxx

[lucy_bach]

Hi, I lost my dad coming up to two years ago. I've had trouble with panic attacks since a teenager, but the 6 months immediately after he went I sort of felt 'at peace' and had a new outlook on life. I wish it had lasted but in the past year my anxiety has been the worst it's ever been, combined with regular migraine attacks (before he passed away I'd never had a migraine) it's quite difficult to endure sometimes. I was offered grief counselling at the time but turned it down as I didn't like the idea of talking about something so personal to someone who didn't know my father. I've since had a rethink but as I've moved house recently and have to change GP's I'm in limbo at the moment.

Grief affects everyone in different ways. I think I feel a bit lost without him around as he suffered from the same anxiety disorder and would come and rescue me when I needed help!

I hope to find some relief at some point soon. X

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Hi please go and see a counsellor you must try i go on monday for my second session and i cant wait i want to beat my anxiety or learn how to deal with it i will try anything im on beta blockers i didnt want any other medication and have bought a great book and just been on this fantastic site gives me hope. xxxx