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I annoys me when random people on the street/in shops/on public transport tell you to 'smile' or 'cheer up'. I have had it happen to me twice in the last week! It's not always the case that I'm down, but I'm often deep in thought about something.

Normally it will annoy me for a minute but then I forget about it, but on a bad day I feel like telling them where to go! We don't all walk around like Cheshire cats and what right does a stranger have to tell me what to do. I don't think they realise that they could genuinely upset someone. Not everyone has something to smile about everyday, often it's quite the opposite and its taking all their strength to get up in the please just be quiet, if anything you're just giving me another reason not to smile.

Rant over phew :p

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LOL! Hope you feel better for the rant, Anxious - and i WON'T tell you to :) !!!




PS As a small child, I was told off for always looking miserable, so i started practising smiling - got asked by the teacher in grim tones "And what are YOU grinning about???" Can't win!



Another annoying thing is this phrase we have inherited from the USA. "Have a good day". How the heck do they know what your circumstances are? "Be well", is another one. Of course you want others to be well, but when in the throes of anxiety saying "Be well" has a hollow ring. What's wrong with the good old fashioned Engish expression "Good Morning", with a smile. They mean well but you know the old expression. "The path to hell is paved with good intentions". I welcome a smile but when I was feeling rough I could have hit someone who said, "Don't worry, it will be OK". It wasn't OK and I was worried; very worried. Grrrrrrrrrrr. j.


I have a naturally gloomy face, at least I presume that I have because Iv`e often had people say that to me when I`m feeling ok. It really annoys me because I think it`s really insensitive to say something like that to a stranger who may have had a catastrophe happen to them or someone close to them. Another saying that I hate is "cheer up, it might never happen!", how do they know that it hasn`t already?. People are so thoughtless!


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