Is everyone ok?

[Reenie]

Just wanted to say hello to everyone and hope you're all ok? Does anyone ever feel like they can't do anything right, are not liked and a failure? Or is it just depression talking. X

[G_150487]

Hi. No I often feel like that too when my anxiety is extreme. Like I'm not sure why I'm here, would it matter if I wasn't....this scares me more than anything. X

[Hidden in reply to G_150487]

Hi. gemnewby. Well, it would matter to me if you were not here and, I am sure, to others on this site. Your blogs are helpful, even if you feel as you do at the moment. Do you not see that by putting this blog on this morning that someone is going to relate to you and FEEL THEY ARE NOT ALONE. My goodness, we do knock ourselves down, don't we? Bless you and Thanks for the blog. jonathan.

[Bramwell]

Me too.

You stumble along sometimes and everything either seems to go wrong or is a problem in some way.

Just life I guess.

[missautumn]

Hi Reenie, my anxiety definitely makes me feel that way pretty much all the time... I feel as though I look, sound and act like an idiot. I know how awful and frustrating those thoughts and feelings can be... Hope you're okay x

[john80614]

yes i feel like that quite often and its awful!!

[hairyfairy]

I had that feeling most of the time when I was growing up. I was a shy kid who didn`t make freinds easily, & my father was a perfectionist who went spare if my school reports weren`t to his liking, that is, top marks in every subject! I know that being disliked wasn`t my fault, it`s just that people are much too quick to judge someone if they don`t live their lives the way others think that they should.

[Hidden in reply to hairyfairy]

Hi. hairyfairy.You have said something very profound in your blog. My wife had the same problem but managed to overcome it. She was told as a child that she was pretty useless! And told frequently. So she grew up (surprise, surprise, feeling pretty useless). We all have 'images' of how we think others should behave and when that

' image' does not conform with actuality, we get annoyed, even angry. You may have heard of George Bernard Shaw, the playwright. He said (and this may be a bit harsh, but I know what he meant) "The worse people to bring up children are parents". Why do we think that the most important thing we can do in the world, bring up a child, requires no training or understanding? As if we have an inherant knowledge that will stand us in good stead. The NSPCC could maybe show us the answer to that question.

[hairyfairy]

How very true! it`s a terrible pity that parenting isn`t part of the school cirriculum in this country, & I think that people who want to become parents should have to pass an exam first, I mean you can`t get behind the wheel of a car without passing a test first, & parenting is the most important task that anyone can undertake. Another problem in our society is that people are pressured into having kids whether they`ll make good parents or not, even if they aren`t too keen on having them. No wonder the NSPCC can`t cope with the number of cases they have to deal with.

[Hidden in reply to hairyfairy]

Hi. hairyfairy. Is it surprising when the young are bombarded on TV with the idea of this perfect state of bliss called marriage. Daddy goes out to work every day with a smile at the door and returns with a packet of so and so's crisps for the kiddywinkies. Mummy smiles and says, because of someones washing powder, what a wonderful day she has had; then dish up a meal by Auntie so and so and it is great smiles all round!! Unless it is 'fun' we do not want to know...No wonder they get a distorted view of life! My goodness; were life so easy.

Bless you. With Love. jonathan.

[Reenie]

Thanks for your comments. Sorry to hear that people feel like that too. I do have genuine reasons for feeling the way I do but I wonder if I am slightly depressed. Can anyone tell me why they feel the same as I do? If they have genuine reasons?

[Melgil58 in reply to Reenie]

Hello reenie I'm a life long sufferer ? Well not all the time but when you get low it seems one bout of depression leads into another when we may in fact have breaks in between them but we're waiting for it to start again as I say I'm a life long sufferer it became bad for me when 1 day I felt unwell I was working nights I went to work that night and I was ill my mate asked what was wrong ,I told him he came back with a sentence that started every symptom iv had since he said his father had had the same thing and he died daft isn't it but that's all it took its sat in me for years depression,panics anxiety and other things everything that one stupid remark and this is how I am I have had some good times but the thing comes round too have its fun with me . I hope things improve for you and I wish you the best. Mel

[sueron]

hi reenie,well if i am ever at a low,my husband likes to use it against me,to let me know that i cant handle life (again). so,over the years,i have learnt to confide in friends instead,but if he gets to know that i have poured my heart out to someone else,he feels hurt and very verbal.....i cant win either way. It makes me feel trapped,but i slowly gather myself,and eventually learn to rise above it.......however long it takes. Thats why this site is a good release,just to say how you are feeling.......today is a good day for me.....i have felt strong and in control all day. you too will have a day like this before long. take care.xx

[hairyfairy]

Jonathan`s comment really rings a bell for me, as I grew up wondering why life wasn`t like in the adverts, where mum was always smiling & happy, & dad didn`t come home grumpy because of a bad day at work. I think people nowadays have been taught to expect too much from life, & when they find out how life really is, they think that something`s wrong,& become depressed. Iv`e always wondered how our ancestors coped in a world that was far less pleasant than the one we have now.

[Reenie]

Thanks for your comments. My husband finds it hard to support me. Sometimes I feel like I can't say anything right to him and that hemust hate me sometimes! I know I piss him off! I was upset the other night cause I went to my friend's house and her friends were there who I don't know, and she kept bringing up my past in front of them ie sexual experiences which I didn't like at all! Things like that should be kept private and not brought up without my permission. I am married now and not the person I was. I feel useless because I haven't made a good career for myself yet. Im not working at the moment but finding it hard to find a job as I have a son at school and an 18 nonth old daughter. I need to achieve something for myself. And I'm in need of a best friend.

[sueron]

i do believe that women need other women to talk with.......its a good release. men i find generally dont do the imotions and feelings,and dont want to let their guard down.....sometimes all us women need is a good listener.........

[Hidden in reply to sueron]

Hi. sueron. I have said somewhere before that the sooner men recognise that they have a Feminine side to their nature the better. It is strange but true that a man who does find his Feminine side and acts on it is, very often, more sympathetic and understanding than a women. But to admit to a Feminine side. !!!!!!!! We are all part Masculine and part Feminine. Obviously, there is more Feminine in a woman than Masculine. The same applies to men where the Masculine dominates. But this inability to recognise this in men worries me and does not bode well for the future. We need empathy and understanding and it seems to be diminishing. (But not on this site, thank God). Sorry to sound a bit pessimistic. Love to all. jonathan.