Hi all. There is an old saying. "When in a hole, stop digging". But it is amazing how we do just the opposite. Every shovel full has a label. "Oh dear, what if; can't cope; worse today; will never get over this; his/her/their fault; shan't sleep tonight; what's that pain; maybe it's...and so on. Instead of putting the shovel down and looking at how we can get out of the hole we go on digging thus getting deeper and deeper. Suddenly, a ladder appears. It is labelled "Hope". There is a way out of the hole but are we too afraid to climb the ladder? At the top we would have to face, not only ourselves but responsibilities which, at the present moment, we could not cope with. So we hesitate. Perhaps after all it is safer in the hole. no one can get at us; but the reverse is that neither can we communicate with them. First of all stop digging. Pause. Take a look around. When did I start digging and why? How deep am I? (No matter how deep the ladder is always long enough. It may just take longer to climb up). The hole is of our own making and is it us who must climb out. But we CAN climb out with the help of friends and helpers. (And this site).There is ALWAYS a way up the ladder. Putting your foot on the first rung is the first and last step. You have begun. You may slip back on occasions but you CAN recover from that "set back", you WILL get to the top, no matter how impossible it may seem at the moment.Even if you slip to the bottom do not start digging again!! It takes courage and perseverance but YOU CAN DO IT, we all can. Do not stay in the hole! ACCEPT how you feel with all the feelings it brings. Go through them and start to climb. There is also a saying that when you hit bottom there is a big spring that throws you back up. You may not even need the ladder!!!
Sorry folks but this just came to me!! jonathan.
Stop doing this to yourself.
Would you use dirty water to wash your clothes?
BEWILDERMENT.
Anxiety....hope this helps
