Losing my patience

[Littlecook]

Who finds that you can't hold your patience like you could and you feel like you want to explode if something is said wrong or in a funny way ? I'm getting to the point I feel like running away incase of saying something wrong. The last person I want to upset is my wife .

[Cat33]

Hello Littlecook This might sound too simple but Agora who contributes a lot on here suggested something earlier this year that I have been practicing and it really works

It's "belly breathing "

I find that practising all through the day whenever I can it not only calms me down but it alters my thoughts

I feel very "at peace" and contented after and can let things go over my head that would have usually wound me up

I really notice a difference if I forget to do it

It's just breathing right down into your tummy as often as you can

There are videos on You Tube too

I really hope it helps you too and also remember to feel sorry for anyone that can't think and be kind before they speak to another person

All the best

[Mamamichl]

I was like that a lot in my 20s and early thirties. For the past 6 years or so though, I’ve learned not to take things as personally. In the beginning, what helped is tensing up and saying I needed a break using a safe word my partner and I came up with. Then when calmed down, I would talk about it. Explain why something triggered you, and see if a boundary is needed, or if you need to accept certain things; every situation is different. Learning this about yourself and about your partner will help you both immensely.

Sometimes a physical outlet was in need too. We liked having a punching bag in our house. It really is hard to fight those impulses. I’m glad you realize already the relationship is more important.