WHAT TO DO

[IamDone123]

I AM FEELING BORED HOPE LESS AND WASTING TIME

MY MOTHER FORCED ME TO TAKE MDCAT (MEDICAL AND DENTAL COLLEGE ADMISSION TEST) TWICE AND I WASTED TWO YEARS OF MY LIFE LIKE THIS IS HOW I WASTED MY LIFE AND MY YOUNGER COUSIN TO GOING TO DUBAI AND NOW AND IM SITTING AT HOME

WHAT THE FUCK AND MY MOTHER DOES CARE ABOUT IS SUCH A TOXIC CARELESS MOTHER SHE IS. ALWAYS FORCING HER DECISION ON ME ALWAYS ON CAREER AND CLOTHES.I REALLY REALY HATE HER AND EVEN SHOUTS ON ME FOR MY MENTAL HEALTH.

SAYS I AM GOOD FOR NOTHING AND I CANNOT DO ANYTHING AND ASKS ME FOR MY MONEY

[Agora1]

Hi dear, I hear you in more ways than you know. I am assuming you are over 18in order to be on this site. Whether living at home or not, some mothers can have

an overpowering connection to their children. Once we are of age, it is up to us

in making that decision as to what path we take.

It doesn't work if someone forces their beliefs, hopes and dreams on you when your

goals are in another direction. I looked at your bio and see that cooking is your passion

and your dream is to become the next Master Chef. How exciting a career.

I too had a mother who in the name of love and caring wanted to push her career onto

me (which was the corporate world) I wanted a Medical Career and stuck to my guns

about achieving it. Oh not that it made it all better I was still put down at times in taking

jobs that didn't pay well. But My Life/My Choice.

Stay true to your dreams. Be happy in that. xx

[blackcat64013]

Hi there, There is so much good advice from Agora1 as usual In addition, I would say that in general we cannot change how someone else behaves towards us. Sitting down with the other for a deep and meaningful chat may work if you are up for it. This requires some work on your part to prepare topics with "when you do x, I feel"and for you not to lose your temper if you feel the other person doesn't get it.

Plan B might be to work on changing what you can control and those are your thoughts/feelings about your relationship. You can do this without seeing a therapist by:-

1. researching online family relationships

2. reading self-help books

3. Sitting down with trusted family member or friend for a chat

4. If you are working or studying take advantage of any free counselling services

5. take a mental health check up if you haven't had one in the 3-6 months.

Hoping these tips from my lived experience help in some small way 🦘