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D-Mi profile image

Hi is anyone out there willing to talk about depression and anxiety. I am a sufferer and would like to speak about it with others who are fighting it. Please reach out!

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Hello!

What type of anxiety do you have? Do you get bad dreams relating to what you constantly think about? When you try to look into the future does it look like a blank state? Do you worry something terrible will happen to you or your family?

D-Mi profile image
D-Mi in reply to -Rinaaa

Thank you so much for reaching out! I need support. I have generalized anxiety disorder and pretty much panic and worry all day. It’s difficult to sleep through the night given the constant worry. I take meds to get to sleep but hard to stay asleep. I’m also on Prozac but I don’t think it’s enough. I lost my job over a year ago and since then have never bounced back. I start a job in a week with a company I’ve been to before and didn’t exactly love and that stresses me out. I have a family as well and looking into the future I have a hard time seeing good and happiness and more panic and worry. I do see a therapist and have for a while. The problem is it’s hard to get up and do anything and I haven’t helped myself at all. Sorry to unload I just wanted you to know what I was going through.

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-Rinaaa in reply to D-Mi

No problem at all! I asked those questions to try and figure out what was going on. What sort of panic and fear do you have? Is it something bad happening to you and your family? I have health anxiety so my thoughts are probably very different but I know what you mean about dread! I get impending doom and it’s the worst thing ever, its really ruined my life

D-Mi profile image
D-Mi in reply to -Rinaaa

It’s so hard to get through. All I feel like doing is laying down and telling everyone my problems. Both of which are not the answer. Ultimately we are the only ones that can make changes I just wish it wasn’t so dang hard. I also wish people on here could actually talk to one another and not just type. I just want to talk to someone going through something similar and find ways to hold each other accountable. Do people on here ever zoom or chat on the phone? Or is that against policy because I’m not trying to do that. Either way Rinaaa I look forward to any response of how you get through day to day. I feel like the more ppl that reach out to me the better I may feel. Today I tried making it from noon to 5 without laying down and closing my eyes.

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-Rinaaa in reply to D-Mi

If you have Instagram you should look up Dr Kiran. Also, do you get physical symptoms or just the mental side of it bothers you?

D-Mi profile image
D-Mi in reply to -Rinaaa

Mental is the worst. Anxiety and panic are the worst and then there is depression. At night I’m a little better because it is before bed but through the night and especially the morning and the day it’s really bad. I’ll be rejoining a company I worked at in the past and it’s giving me terrrrible anxiety as well. I am not sure how I will cope

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-Rinaaa in reply to D-Mi

Morning anxiety is very common! Do you get bad dreams or do you dream about things you have been thinking about during the day that are bothering you because of your anxiety?

D-Mi profile image
D-Mi in reply to -Rinaaa

I don’t dream much unfortunately. I take trazadone to help fall asleep and lately the anxiety has woken me up and hard to go back to sleep.

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-Rinaaa in reply to D-Mi

Right ok fair enough. Try cbd oil which could help. You should try drinking camomile tea too

D-Mi profile image
D-Mi in reply to -Rinaaa

Have u ever had meds for anxiety or depression? Ever panic attacks?

-Rinaaa profile image
-Rinaaa in reply to D-Mi

No I haven’t. I don’t like the idea of meds

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anonymous_58 in reply to -Rinaaa

Do you listen to music, it helps get me through my loneliness and emptiness. usually helpsand no one likes to be on meds. listening to "Kina"-"get you to the

moon" dancing to helps. I think it calms the mind.

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-Rinaaa in reply to anonymous_58

No I don’t. Do you think about the future? When you do does it seem like a blank slate?

I think we all suffer from anxiety and each of us have found or are looking for our own solutions. I am lucky I have a fantastic wife, so that is one solution on the other hand we don't have many friends where we are. So we go visit people who, well I wouldn't say we don't like, but wouldn't be my first choice. They row a lot and it makes me appreciate what I have, it is also quite entertaining in a sadistic way which brings me to my point. We get depressed becuase we are bored and that allows us to dwell on the bad things.

Do you have plenty to keep you busy? This covid thing has done untold damage, by preventing us from getting on with our lives, locking us up and I have spent the past 2 years fighting against that. Using holes in the rules to do what i want to do, but being in a foreign country I must respect those rules.

There are tricks you can learn, to chase away the devils called depression and anxiety.

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Sorry that you are suffering so right now. I know how it feels. I have GAD as well and have had had fear and anxiety since I was a child. At different points in my life it has been worse and then long periods of time when I was mostly free of anxiety. As I have gotten older and things have changed in my life and the pandemic looms still, I have gotten in a relapse that has been with me for the last four years. I am also on Prozac but I can only take 10 mg every other day. I was prescribed clonazepam by my dr and I used to take it once in a blue moon when I couldn’t sleep. Then I started taking small doses to help each day and then with the help of therapy, I have learned tools to deal with my anxiety. It’s an ongoing process and I still have good and bad days, but I am better these days.

I can share with you some of my best tools for recovery. Meditation or prayer each day. Soothing music during the day. Keeping on a set schedule; having things to do each day. Exercise; getting outside each day. Taking the time to nurture yourself; a cup of hot herbal tea; a comfy blanket with a book in a especially inviting and warm seating where the sun can be felt. Lighting candles at night; maybe with a lavender scent. Reach out to people who understand and have heartfelt conversation. I have a little dog that is my companion and I read out loud to her and this is also a good tool to ground yourself; just read out loud to yourself.

I know you are struggling with the thought of your job but think how you will feel when you have overcome your fear and are doing well. Envision this in your mind if you possibly can. And make sure to reward yourself for each obstacle you overcome. You will feel all the better for it. I wish you well and hope some of what I have written here helps you, if just a little bit.😊

D-Mi profile image
D-Mi in reply to Hope4me1

Thank you so much! I really need to work on myself and I tell myself tomorrow will be the day and the same thing happens. I am my own worst nightmare. I need the strength to get up and stay up…it’s just really hard. Never though life would be like this or could happen to me

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godsgirl80 in reply to Hope4me1

❤ Thanks for this. It helped me as well. I will practice some of the things you stated along with the things I'm already doing

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Hope4me1 in reply to godsgirl80

Anything I can share to bring healing to others I am glad to be able to do. I have learned much on this site and am grateful for the help others have given me. We are here to help each other. I am still on my healing journey as well. What brings peace to my soul I will share with all.❤️

Know that it will get better if you work at it and to accept your anxiety and peace will come. It’s ok to feel the way you do; it’s just your brain’s response, nothing more. When you accept your feelings it’s telling your brain that there is no need to continue. You are safe. Don’t get discouraged, let time pass and be patient with yourself. 😊

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D-Mi in reply to Hope4me1

How do I fight the constant thoughts of worry and panic and my brain telling me everything is too much. I just want to run away and hide which isn’t doing me any good. I wish I could just turn off the brain and racing thoughts and feel normal. It’s paralyzing. I’m really trying not to throw up or find myself at a hospital.

I’ve been there. You are tired and stressed. You need rest for your soul and answers to your problems. If you can start reading Claire Weeks’ books, you will understand better. Training your mind to be quiet takes time. I have made the effort to meditate every day for at least 15 minutes. I recommend the Insight Timer app. It’s free and it will give you much benefits in rest and meditation. Start with small steps and little by little you will see the difference. Make sure you are eating healthy and lots of water. Take good care of you; you are worth it😊

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D-Mi in reply to Hope4me1

I hardly eat as I’m not hungry and when I eat it is fast and not exactly healthy. I’m in a dark hole right now and I really don’t know where to turn. U have given some options which I appreciate. Is there anything free other than buying books and apps? I’m really tight with money

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Hope4me1 in reply to D-Mi

I know how it is to not feel hungry. I would make sure I would eat, though. But only things like a fresh salad, yogurt, fruits, and fish and chicken. All light things that go down well. I was nauseous all the time, but I ate. This tells your brain that all is well. One sign I had that I was getting better was hunger started again.

Free things are podcasts. Find the podcast app and look up Claire Weeks there. Drew Linsalada has a podcast. It is called The Anxious Truth. He is very good to listen to. His advice is free through his site and Facebook. The Insight Timer is a free app. Walking is free. Library books are free.😊

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anonymous_58 in reply to D-Mi

YouTube has meditation and yoga for relaxing use a warm towel over your eyes. Diet is important, water is vital too with supplements. Good night

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