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[Khad18]

Hi everybody. This is my first time on an online anxiety forum, so I hope I can find comfort knowing that I'm not alone and that there are other people going through the exact same situations that I am experiencing. I'm 22, and I have general anxiety. I worry over everyday situations, whether that is driving anxiety or social anxiety. I'm not very good at social events. I can't be myself around lots of people, or else I just start having a dry mouth and feel overwhelmed. It seriously affects my mood and my life. I wish I didn't feel like this, I wish that I could confront my feelings head on, and not be so afraid to fight back. Every time I wake up in the morning, the fear hits me, it's too much. I worry that my day isn't going to go as planned and that something is going to go wrong. Then during the evening, I worry about waking up the next day and feeling the exact same way. I just don't like feeling so crap, and worrying over small things, such as talking on the phone or having to go to a doctor's appointment, as I know that I'll have to talk, and I'm worried I'm going to mess up my words or not say the right things. Does it get better? Has anyone experienced any of the things I am talking about now? and if so, how do you cope? How do you soon start to accept that you have anxiety? I don't want to keep this in anymore, better out than in.

[Barakbet]

I think that accepting anxiety is the hardest thing you could possibly do, especially people like me with health anxiety, but I promise you the moment you start to realise that anxiety don’t control you, you’ll see that it will only get better

[Khad18 in reply to Barakbet]

I just have a hard time controlling my anxiety. I let the anxiety control me, it takes over my life, and it shouldn’t be like that. I feel defeated, I feel like I’ll never get better.

[Agora1 in reply to Khad18]

Khad18, you're right in that we shouldn't allow a feeling to take over our lives.

It is our life and we need to be in control of our thoughts and actions. What happens

is that Anxiety grows with power when we give into it. It hides in our subconscious

mind making us fear every waking hour. If you think about it, it is nothing but a thought.

It's not a real thing. But the power it has over our mind can result in physical

manifestations of bodily symptoms. We must accept that anxiety is nothing but a lie

that our mind tells us. I'm glad you are with us Khad. I'd like to welcome you. :)xx

[Blue_81]

It does feel that way that it never is going to get better but with time it will. Have to take one day at a time. Not sure why anxiety comes to be and why it takes control over the self. Exercise does help with anxiety.

[Princessbride_]

I understand completely how you feel. I am also diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and used worry about absolutely everything. The fear had complete control over me. Therapy and medication is what helped me the most.

Yes it absolutely gets better but in my experience it takes time. Recovery to a point where life is enjoyable takes time and a lot of effort on your part. Working on pushing through your anxiety, understanding what’s causing your anxiety and finding the best treatment for you.

For myself I never fully accept the anxiety, but I started to accept it once I got to a place I was about 75% stable. Which is where I am now. That for me took about 2 years. I know it sounds like a long time, but it’s so worth it. I used to have anxiety that crippled me. It was so bad I completely stopped living life. It caused me to throw up so extremely often.

But please remember you are not the only one going through this, you are not alone, there is help and life can get better. ❤️