Social Anxiety

[hippieebbbz09]

Hi

Does anyone get like super anxious when someone is talking for like hours or even like 20 mins haha but it feels like forever and you want to like , whisk yourself away from the conversation , but don’t want to be rude ? What do you do about it ? Lol anyone else master how to handle this..? I’ve been in the situation twice in like the past two days and I suck at this obviously . I’m super emotional because even though it’s a light day , I’m still on my menstrual cycle ( sorry if it’s TMI) , so I honestly wanna break down and cry , but I usually go to the bathroom and that’s my excuse , after like 20 mins or an hour of rambling . It’s funny because both times I was sleepy and super chill until these ppl talked to me . :/ it’s crazy how my hormones get so balanced out to where I’m relaxed then someone gets me all emotional again or anxious smh.

Anyways , any advice on how to handle people who are complete chatterboxes lol?

[hypercat54]

Oh this is a pain isn't it? I too hate people who talk endlessly and won't shut up and try and avoid these types. If they ignore the glazed look on your face and naturally turning away do you know them well enough to say jokingly 'Cor you are giving me a headache' or something like that. Dealing with it through humour is more socially acceptable than getting annoyed or anxious.

These people are often very lonely and think that by talking all the time they will feel more connected and less lonely though the reverse is actually true. When you listen instead you have someones full attention and this is what makes you feel less alone.

There is a limit to how many times you can say you need the bathroom so how about 'Oh I must call someone excuse me' or 'I must go and speak to so and so'. etc.

Good luck. x

[hippieebbbz09 in reply to hypercat54]

Those are great excuses HyperCat. You’re so right. I think I’ll get more conversation if I say “I have to use the bathroom so many times” they’ll ask if I have a UTI , then how they’d treat it, blah blah 😂 .

[pink83737]

all the time lol!

[Sleeplessgirl]

Perhaps say you need to go talk to someone else you have just noticed, or you have to go because you have plans with someone, depends how good a liar you think you are 😂

[hippieebbbz09 in reply to Sleeplessgirl]

Not the greatest liar at all, but the bathroom one has been my go-to lie...with great and continued success 😂😂. Then when they expect me to come back, I dash away as quickly as I can hahahaha.

[Sleeplessgirl in reply to hippieebbbz09]

That’s fair enough😂, hey I just thought actually of a way you don’t have to lie, you could be like “I’ve got to be somewhere else right now, is it alright if I go?” So then you sound polite and are telling the truth as you genuinely do need to be somewhere else away from that social situation