*Constant jelly legs that make me look like something stuck up my *** whenever I get up to walk, which is extremely embarrassing to me!
*Trembling weak voice whenever talking to anyone feel like I’m about to shatter into a million pieces!
*Dizziness sensations feeling like I’m on a boat or drunk and can’t walk straight without running into the wall!
*Shaky hands that make it hard to put food in my mouth because of how nervous I am!
*Head shakes that make my head turn from side to side rapidly whenever I make eye contact or bring a cup of water to drink:/
*Body twitch and nervous tics that make me fling my body parts in different directions!
*Dry mouth and sweaty palms!
*Fatigued and major migraines when I experience a panic attack!
*Stuttering and a blank mind!
*Frozen or paralyzed!
* ibs problems!
*Racing thoughts that run in about 1000 mph!
All these symptoms go hand in hand and fuel my anxiety further. I feel like I’m stuck in this vicious cycle unable to escape. I developed this anxiety disorder from being abused, mistreated, ostracized, and bullied.
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Have you ever been offered Beta blockers ? They maybe helpful at reducing the awful physical symptoms of anxiety you describe so well,they helped me with the palpitations shaking ,they changed my life not addictive or tranquillizing ,it gives you breathing space to deal with the other aspects of anxiety I really wish you well and peace from your suffering xx
Nope sounds interesting I’ll consider it but my root problem is the ostracism that fuels my anxiety:/ I’m either unattractive or I have a facial feature that repels people and that’s what’s causing my anxiety to comeback . The bullying also made me extremely insecure so self acceptance is near impossible:/
Benny, I'm sorry you were abused and bullied. I hope you are now well removed from those who did those things. The shame is all theirs, Benny, nothing that happened to you is your fault. The human brain is remarkably resilient, let the past be the past and for the sake of a better future leave those bad thoughts behind you.
I'm also sorry to hear of the many symptoms of anxiety disorder you experience. Do not think to treat each one on its own, they all have one common cause: your nervous system has become super-sensitised. Solve this problem and all the symptoms will disperse.
What caused this sensitisation I do not know, maybe your former abuse, maybe the constant memory of it all, maybe other things. No matter because once sensitised it becomes self-perpetuating: each symptom causes you fear and sensitised nerves feed on your fear and cause more symptoms causing more fear, round and round it goes until some intervention by you breaks the never ending chain reaction. Once you achieve that then the fear hormones cease to feed your nervous system. Eventually nerves recover and you will come to look on life differently with a quiet mind and a body that responds normally.
How great that day is when it comes. And it will come - if only you can find it within you to renounce fear.
First, stop fighting your anxiety. Fighting only causes more stress and tension, more of that you do not need!
Instead of fighting your symptoms accept them instead. Not forever, just for the time being as part of the road to your recovery. Accept all the symptoms for the moment, agree to coexist with them. As you know by now they cannot do you permanant harm, they are unpleasant examples of the way anxiety mimicks real physical illness, nothing more.
The trick is, Benny, we can't both fear something and accept it at the same time. So accept it, replace fear with acceptance in your thoughts. This allows your jangled nerves to rest and return to normal. Then, no matter how long or how deeply you have suffered, you will recover your peace of mind. You will walk with confidence, speak with clarity and all things will be well.
Indigojoe kindly gave you a link to the teachings of Claire Weekes. What I have briefly described is also part of her method expressed so many years ago in her first book titled in the U.K. 'Self help for your nerves' or in the U.S. as 'Hope and help for your nerves' both available new from Amazon or pre-owned from ebay.
This book and her method I believe are your way forward.
Hey thank you for your concerns I appreciate it a lot! Yes Clair’s videos are very nice indeed. I’m gonna jump ahead and just say that my anxiety is self sustaining from the ongoing rejections because of the way I look I need plastic surgery:/ I’ve tried everything and I’m exhausted. Have a good one and again thank you for the support!
excellent advice Jeff,it was the first book I had Claire Weeks.....its so easy to read and certainly helped me when I couldn't geven go out and face the world many years ago..but anxiety returned with a vengeance this past year and im just managing and no more .. don't give up no matter how bad it seems you can beat this ,change your thought patterns and don't allow negativity to overwhelm you ,.
Lorianxiety, set backs often occur and if we have a genetic disposition to anxiety it can reoccur. But Claire Weekes said that if you manage to recover once using her method then as far as she is concerned you are cured because you know how to recover from any subsequent episodes.
My anxiety is inherited so it can return from time to time albeit in mild short lasting episodes. At these times I find rereading Weekes' first book again reinforces my practice of accepting and floating.
I hope you are able to deal successfully with your setback and soon regain your peace of mind.
hi thanks for your reply,my anxiety is inherent too ,in my makeup,but what both upset and confused that this latest spell,how much of a grip it had ,affecting as you said your nerves ect,im glad that you are managing to deal with yours with the help of Dr.Claire Weeks and hopefully I will conquer the present situation,though its far better.please don't hesitate to ask or consult the group anytime,
I’m stuck because I have a facial feature that repels a lot of people or either I’m ugly:/ and the shunning is what keeps my anxiety going. I don’t think plastic surgery is the magic pill but I believe it will help lessen my anxiety because then people will be more accepting. The thing that sucks is there are a few who accept me , but because the majority don’t it really affects my self esteem and sends me back to the anxiety loop
I’m positive it’s a physical problem:/ it’s so stupid because I never really paid attention to it that much, but because I got bullied bad and rejected from it constantly it got to me:/
you have my deepest sympathy ,it seems dreadful and makes my own anxiety feel minor though I have some of your symptoms,not nearly as bad as how you describe them are you on any meds. or psychiatrist or a good friend ...yes,the book by Claire weeks is an excellent way to know that your not alone and that you can regain some control----im sure I have that book in my collection ,will rake for it ,very helpful.!
Benny does need professional help from a doctor. Benny came here for support and to share problems, this is what we have been doing, not replacing professional help.
We all come here to support and encourage each other by sharing our struggles, thoughts and experiences. Every one of us, including Benny, has a right to be on here.
Strange, I don't remember ever saying she didn't. I have my opinion about it and that still stands, she needs a doctor's professional help and serious therapy. I doubt anyone here can help her in any serious way. Jeff has his opinion, I have mine and you yours and people need to accept that. Thank you.
Yes, she does need help in addition to this forum; however, you did say “not an online forum”. That just sounds like you don’t think she should be on here.
Are you and Jeff some kind of forum police, policing other's responses to posts because you believe you know more than others ? My initial answer was not to you or Jeff but the person who made post. I said, they need a doctor who will refer them to professional help because I feel they need that, that is my opinion and my opinion is also that an online forum isn't going to help much, again my opinion. I didn't say she has no right to be here, I didn't say don't come here either !! I don't police yours or Jeff's responses either. So learn to accept others have responses different to yours and though you may not agree with them learn to accept them and keep your nose out and let the original poster respond to them !!. Thank you.
I never said or thought that I knew more than anybody else and don’t police anybody. I’m just on here as someone who has suffered from anxiety off and on for years and support those that experience it as well. I wil continue to do so but that does not include continuing this discussion with you.
As the others have said, it’s anxiety and we can relate! I’m having a hard time with dizziness and head tingling myself this morning. I know how hard it is but you can do it l.have read Claire Weeks work and listened to her recordings over and over and over. It takes time and most of all patience. Most of all....in her own words, “utter, utter acceptance”. Instead of fighting and dreading, float through, accept and the symptoms will calm down and disappear eventually. We all it’s much easier said than done. Even she repeatedly stresses that she knows how hard it is because we’re so sensitized. But it will happen. Hang in there. We’re all in this together.
Absolutely,it takes time and persistence,negativity and living with anxiety could be anyones nightmare if you allow to dominate your mind and life...…..its never easy though we must learn to go with the flow.
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