Rubbish at confrontation and little things that happen can build up and make me cry too easily at times. Anyone else struggle?

[TheBlackdog]

I work part time, run a family home and am always busy with no time for me. Just recently I have had a week off work as having one of my exhausted moments and brain fog where I can't function very well. I went back to work the following week to be faced with criticism and playing catch up with my workload. Then other events have happened and it all became too much and I cried. I got over it and stayed at work fulfilling my role as expected. I left work and it left me angry at the world, people and life in general. I have had a bit if this anxiety type adrenalin state for a bit in the mornings but it passes through the day thankfully. Just want my tablet increase to kick in so that this horrible feeling goes away so I can get back to normal. Anyone have difficulty with this especially when you're already down and a bit beaten?

[starryskies]

Hi there Blackdog. I’m new on here and wanted to reply to your post.

Firstly, I’m not great at dealing with confrontation either, so I have an idea how you might be feeling. I’ve always been the one in the family who was expected to get on with things, being the eldest (rolls eyes). I’m a full time mum to a teenager who has various health issues, including a lot of anxiety and often feel like I have no time to myself either. I’m also going through the menopause,which is just a barrel of laughs! Cue hot flushes and lots of brain fog! I don’t have anyone to talk to about how things are - my husband isn’t a good listener and my parents are elderly and don’t keep well. I don’t want to trouble them when they have enough on their plate.

But what I will say to you is this : please don’t be afraid to have a bloody good cry when things get too much. It does help. I tend to do this away from my teenager and husband, so they don’t know. I don’t want to add to my daughter’s anxiety. Then I wash my face, take a deep breath and carry on. I try to make a little time for myself each day, even if it’s 15 mins, just to do something for me, like reading or listening to a bit of music on Spotify. Something upbeat to cheer me up or relaxing if it’s near bedtime. Or I write in a journal, even if it’s a bit of a rant, it helps and I have an outlet for my feelings. Tell yourself that you ARE doing the best that you can (working and running a family home is hard work!). Do you have a supportive partner or friend that you can talk to? Also, if you’re finding it hard at work, could your line manager maybe help if you speak to them confidentially?

Sending you a big hug, hope things get better for you soon. You are not alone.

starryskies