First post and desperately after help and support please

Hi everyone - so glad I’ve found others that suffer like me and can hopefully understand what I’m going through. I’ve been married 5 years but feel life is a constant struggle between my head (thinking things) - and my mouth actually saying stuff out out loud! For example I worry (a lot) that my husband will leave me... so when he has changed jobs recently this has caused me a lot of anxiety 😢 I know it’s totally irrational but I honestly can’t help the way I think. I try to talk to him and just ask him to reassure me but I think I just irritate him now 😭 this week he even told me that a work colleague had given him a small gift that he considered throwing away to avoid the obvious conversations I would initiate. This in turn has now increased my anxiety and reinforced my trust issues 😔 I feel like it’s a spiral of behaviour I can’t break

PLEASE PLEASE HELP??? 🙏

Desperate to change

Can anyone else relate to these constant negative thought patterns?

Feeling so desperately low and alone right now 😢

[b1b1b1]

People get annoyed when you constantly ask for reassurance. Try hard not to do this. Work with a therapist to get to the underlying issues of why you need a lot of reassurance.

[Jeff1943]

B1b1b1 is right. Your anxiety about losing your husband may be due to an earlier experience or just that you're undervaluing yourself.

You obviously value your husband but you're in danger of driving him away with your suspicions that are unwarranted.

Just be yourself, that's what your husband married you for, and stop making him feel guilty about something he hasn't done.