Wanting to die

[Raguirre]

I don't know where to start.my husband and I have been separated and he recently passed awayy daughter tried to commit suicide because she was facing prison time

She lived through it and now is in prison .It's breaking my heart .I can't seem to get off the couch. I cry all the time.i have to drag myself to a job that I absolutely hatey days off I spend zonked on xanx..the only thing keeping me alive is my daughter telling me she needs me to be here when she comes home. Not living im just going through the motions.

[Agora1]

Raguirre, sometimes in life we have to go through the motions for others who need us. I am sorry for the loss of your husband . I am also sorry that your daughter is in prison. You have been hit hard by 2 traumatic life events. I certainly hope you are seeing a therapist in going through your grieving process as well as the undue stress of your daughter's issue.

I don't know how long ago all of this happen but give yourself time to absorb all this. Xanax may help get you through a couple weeks but is not the answer in escaping.

Please get the help you need right now with a good therapist. Your daughter does need you while in prison as well as when she gets out. Write her, call her, be her support system during this time for her. She must be frightened and lonely. It will help you in knowing you are needed and loved. I am so sorry for your pain. Come to the forum and talk with us as much as you need to. We are here for each other during the most darkest of times. We support you and want to comfort you because we understand that no one should ever feel so alone, so hopeless, so helpless. We care xx

[Raguirre in reply to Agora1]

Thank you for the kind words and good advice.

[Bright2018]

What a beautiful story you have awaiting you when your daughter is back. As a TBI Patient from Poole Hospital (Transferred by telephone from Plymouth, never been to Poole hospital I just got on the boat to France) I really do understand.

The UK does terrible things to people in the name of health. The NHS does wonderful things too but if we really want to Save Our NHS we need to remember 1948 in 2018 and get rid of all the cars that have caused so many TBI patients to really suffer.

Some people tell me to accept things as they are but why not remember better times when we founded our NHS and just rode around on bicycles. So I ignore the traffic and that is why I needed to get on the boat. Poole is just too dangerous but there is a nice beach and I walk along it going home to Bournemouth (near the Pier).

There is much to live for. The Headway Advice Together Service is opening on Bournemouth Pier in that room at the top with the windows so we can all drink coffee together and look out to see if my wife and son are arriving from Zamboanga on HMS Britannia.

After our meeting at the port we will then continue back to Aberdeen and Wick, it is better in Scotland, the NHS has proper funding and university is free for our children. I love Bournemouth but Conor Burns is a Tory Traitor who has yet to commit to supporting Headway and the local community, so I vote Labour.

Looking forward to meet you on the Pier when the new centre opens.

CHEERS !

[kenster1]

hi im sorry to hear of your loss and about your daughter.even when people separate they will still feel love towards that person more so when kids are involved.im sure your daughter just had a bad period in life after his passing and may have done some things she regrets.your daughter needs her mum and you need your daughter more than ever.you might not like your job but its passing time and keeping you occupied.when your daughter gets released its important for you to be there thick and thin for each other.it could be the start of a more positive future for you both.take care.