Scared of not getting better

[Trees2357]

I'm so scared that I won't get better.

[SA192461]

I feel the same way as I sit here this evening longing for my life that I dearly loved...

[Agora1]

Trees, the more you feed your mind a negative thought such as "you won't get better" it will continue to grow into a fear that will never leave.

Change that to "I may be scared right now, but I'm going to conquer this fear. It will no longer control me. I have the power within me to make changes"..... Only then will you be able to go forward with your life. Right now, it's like a car stuck in mud, the more the wheels spin, the deeper you sink into the mud and go no where. xx

[Trees2357 in reply to Agora1]

Thanks for that. Your right that's the problem

[Agora1 in reply to Trees2357]

xx

[Vbee]

I have read many of your posts and while you identify with having anxiety, I would guess that most, if not all of your anxiety would disappear if you left your husband. As humans we NEED intimacy and support and love to survive. He is berating, abusing you and offering absolutely no support and actively tearing you down. This is why you feel so terrible. No drugs will fix this. A good therapist may offer suggestions buy if he is not letting you go see one then that is not an option. Consider leaving. Please. ⚘💔

[Trees2357 in reply to Vbee]

I've seen a lot of therapists. Seeing one tomorrow

[Vixrey44]

I feel exactly the same. X

[Hidden]

You will get better. Only believe.

[Hidden]

Take small steps at first. Reward yourself each time you take steps toward your healing. Celebrate each time you challenge your fears. At first it may be uncomfortable then it will be what you are use to. I am standing in faith for you. Faith without works can not exist, so I am having faith for you and praying for you and all of us as we find our way to wholeness. Have a good day Trees you deserve it.

[Trees2357 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you

[Hidden]

Trees2357 , what you need to do is change the negative thought you have in your mind to a positive one. Have a look at 'The Thrive Programme', the book is well worth investing in. I have the book for Emetophobia and have worked through the whole book carrying out the exercises and I started going through it again but just need a little support from someone, just someone to talk to whilst working through the book so I have an appointment next month for CBT and will be taking the book along with me.

What the book suggests is you write down 10 positive things that have happened to you either in the past or recently and you look at those positive things about 4 times a day and if you think of another one you add it to the list and drop the first one off the list, the list just has to be 10 things.

Think there is no such word as 'won't' but there is such a phrase 'I will'.

Take care x

[Trees2357 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks. I'm in physical pain because of anxiety

[Hidden in reply to Trees2357]

Trees, I totally agree with b1b1b1 and Aorli in that there are suggestions but you are not acting on them, are you afraid? This is not a quick fix and the hard work has got to come from you, believe you me I am experiencing that working through the Thrive Programme, I will not give up. Also what Aoril is saying in that some days might not be good but there will also be good days, eventually there will be more good days than bad.

I know how hard it is believe you me but the work has got to come from the individual and no-one else. I know that with me having now got an appointment for CBT it won't be a quick fix, the hard work will have to come from me and I know that, as long as you can except that you will he half way there.

[Princessjessica in reply to Trees2357]

Me too An I’ve been stuck like this everyday for 4 years everything else in my life id be happy with it’s just this and no matter what I do it won’t stop or go away.

[b1b1b1]

Trees you get so many suggestions, but it doesn't sound like you take or act on any of them. Why is this? You will not get better unless you begin to take some of the small steps that are suggested here.

[Aorli]

Same. But the better I do with my anxiety the more I think I can get past it. It will be hard some days but then you will have better days and you'll feel great about them. Cherish the good days and there will be more to come.

[Lostjoy]

How are you doing today Trees?