Fed up where I live

[princessleia29]

Hi I just wanted to post as I suffer from general anxiety and I am really lonely where I live. I live with my husband about 180 miles away from my family. My only son has just gone to university and I miss him terribly. My husband is step dad to my son and doesn’t seem to miss him at all.

I left my job in September to do a course but it didn’t work out so I am now out of work looking for a job. We have no proper friends here so it is really lonely. I only know one neighbour and I don’t have any hobbies right now.

I want to move back home to be nearer to my family but I do have a difficult relationship with my dad who is the source of my anxiety. I don’t know what to do I can’t go on feeling so sad and miserable and disagreeing with my husband who does not want to move back. My best friend just came to see me and can’t understand why he won’t consider it for my sake.

Any advice greatly appreciated. I’m not on any medication as I keep hoping I will get over my empty nest syndrome soon.

[Lostjoy]

Hi princessleia29,

Your story sounds a lot like mine, except we moved 6 hours away from Family and friends. My anxiety is horrible, and now depression has set in due to the loneliness. My husband doesn’t want to move back either. My grown kids can’t understand why he is so stubborn about staying where we know no one. It is very hard disagreeing with him.

Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone .

Finding friends here who are dealing with similar situations has helped me.

Wishing you happiness!

[princessleia29 in reply to Lostjoy]

Hi thank you for replying to me it is good to know I am not alone. Sometimes I feel like the only person with problems! I'm sorry to hear your husband is also being stubborn it's not very nice is it? Wishing you happiness too x

[Kessa]

Hi, I' m sorry you feel lonely, i can feel through your words that this is not being easy for you. I m a girl who recently moved out and I worry a lot about my parents feeling lonely without me since we are very close. Good luck to your son with university! It's so important to make experiences but i know It can be so hard to stay apart from one's family even though u want their best.

You've said u don't have any hobbies, did you have before or do you have something else you enjoy doing? Have you consider doing volountary work in a field you like? x

[princessleia29 in reply to Kessa]

Hi thank you for replying to me. It's nice that you can understand how I am feeling it helps a lot. I did have hobbies before but work and looking after my son previously stopped me from doing them. I am looking into returning to what I used to do just waiting for an opportunity. I used to be a First Aider. x