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Fed up of the ups and downs ; (


Feeling like I'm not getting very far with my recovery ; (( Have some good days where I feel like I'm on the up only to be smacked back down with bad days. Stil grinding things like going out with friends really hard. I feel exhausted all the time. When wil it stop. What have I done to be dealt this condition. In therapy which is helping but sooo want to be free to enjoy my life and my family. Hope. Someone understands how I feel as no one else gets me : (

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I know exactly how you feel hun, I posted a similar blog yesterday. I wish I knew the answers for you aswell so that I could move on and enjoy my life and my family too. I honestly feel like I'm going to be stuck with this all my life and that theres no light at the end of the tunnel. I'm sure there is and we will come out of this smiling! But until then we need to keep strong and try to get through it as best we can. Sorry Ive not been much help. But just want to let you know your not on your own xx

Thanx huni I too just want to move on. Fed up with everyone enjoying life and me being the one stuck in with this. Find it exhausting keeping the fight going. I want me back. I know that we have to keep strong but think we deserve an off day where we can say exactly how we really feel. I'm fed up with smiling and saying yes I feel fine when inside I want to scream and say its bit fair... Why me... Why steal my life!!! Trouble is with depression or anxiety it can cum bac at any given time. Hope together we can win this battle and be free. We sooo deserve it ; )

I read your comments, and agree with you, I have had thia anxiety panics, agoraphobia for over 40 years, I often wonder what I did to get this problem, I know I am a worrier, and now my husband has Altizheimers, and gets so angry with me, he has stopped eating, and drinking as he should, I give him Complan and the Ensure drinks, but after we have been married to long I am afraid all the time, I used to be able to ask his help, but now do not have anyone to talk to through the day, I cannot stay alone in the house either, I have been on meds for so many years, Now the depression is drastic with worry, there are times I lie in bed late hate to see the daylight, but, there were times when I had my son I managed to get better for a time, and my parents passed away, and back it came, so I do so understand what you say,

I hope there will be a time when we will be free of this problem We do deserve to get better.


Please have a look online at ADRENAL FATIGUE, because it sounds like this is what you have. You are far too exhausted for an anxious person, because anxiety makes you wired like too much caffeine. You have something else going on - maybe CFS/ME - I was diagnosed with that in 1996 and possibly it's your problem. You need to have a proper discussion with your doctor and have some tests done.

Best of luck with this.

What are the tests they carry out for adrenal fatigue? I've had blood tests n it come back as low iron. I will admit, I do have a poor diet and I don't eat as much as I should, when I should. x

Mine is anxiety and depression I am tired all the time as I don't stop worrying frm the moment I get up to the moment I go to bed. I don't sleep we'll either. I'm mentally exhausted. I work ful time and av a family to look after. I've suffered all my life right frm as a child. It has got worse the last year or so where I'm too scared to do owt, go for a drink with friends, go shopping. Even going on holiday was a battle this year. Not only is it ruining my life but my husbands and my son's. just want me bac. Scared I am gone for gud ; (


Hi jaynehale36. In nervous illness FATIGUE is one of the most distressing of all symptoms. (While it can be caused by other things, if your GP has given you the OK then believe him/her). But it most certainly is a symptom of GAD and is not necessarily anything else. Stop worrying about tests for this or that. You will finish up with your bed in the doctors surgery!

Let them worry about it. After all, they are supposed to know. But be guided by them in MEDICAL matters. Someone has said you are far too exhaused for an anxious person. The sort of fatigue felt by a person in the throes of anxiety is, as Dr. Weekes calls it, 'a tiredness beyond tiredness'. A debilitating, exhausting and depressing tiredness. To say you are too tired for an anxious person is misguided. There is no 'depth' to this fatigue. The 'depth' of this exhaustion has to be lived to be believed. The answer is REST and ACCEPTANCE. Your batteries need recharging. Think of it as car battery that has been flogged because the car won't start. It finally gives up. So, give up. STOP FIGHTING and ACCEPT it all. By the way, I wish I had Adrenalin Fatigue. Perhaps, giving the old Adrenalin glands a rest would be a good thing!!!. Kind regards. jonathan.

Thanx Jonathan u always give wise words of advice. I am really trying to accept my anxiety but its sooo hard wen u have bad few days. X


Hi. jaynehale36. Of course it is. Who said it was easy. A bad few days in setback can throw you into the no-confidence part of this illness. But you will bounce back, rest assured. Imagine you are climbing a ladder. You go up two rungs and back one; but the movement is always UP. It is difficult to see the movement UP when we keep slipping back. Take heart; the road is hard but you have friends here who can and will help you. Bless you. jonathan.

Thanx Jonathan I always listen to what you have to say. ; )

You should all try a thing called "Binaural Beats", these computer generated sound files are said to massage your brain and produce all sorts of effects, and are excellent for stress/ depression/ anxiety disorders. A binaural beat is created by playing a different tone in each ear through headphones, and the interference pattern between the slightly differing frequencies creates the illusion of a beat. It's completely safe and scientifically proven - google it!!

If you search the Internet for "binaural beats" you'll quickly find there's a whole industry built on the idea that listening to binaural beats can produce all kinds of desired effects in your brain. It can alter your mood, help you follow a diet or stop smoking, get you pumped up for a competition, calm you down, put you to sleep, enhance your memory, act as an aphrodisiac, cure headaches, and even balance your chakras;-)

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