Rollercoaster of Emotions

[LaurieRose]

Hi everyone

Hope you're all well as can be. I'm trying to cope with a lot at the moment. I wont go into all the details because too long and im on the minutes. Just wanted to know if anyone else is trying to deal with their children's anxieties as well as their own. One of my daughter's the 17 year old (youngest) is going through he'll right now. She's between crying mist if the day and angry outbursts. This is what's happened for her...me being extremely tired and depressed and unable to take care of her as normal I.e make dinner withoutvextreme effort, tidy up after her, listen to her problems without going into a kind of coma from exhaustion. I hid most of it well from her but I think she could tell, then her grandad died, her dad got a cold..which doesn't sound bad but he's like it's the end of the world and she can't stay over there he says when he's got a cold. She has a cold or allergyvchest infection and is menstruating then to top all this crap off her best friend has gone off with new friends at college and is leaving her out. Also, the new friends of her now ex by have been saying mean things about her. I'm pretty sure my daughter is having a breakdown. I don't know what to do....ive searched online and it says all you can do is listen. Internally I'm blowing up but I'm keeping a brave face on...but feeling very lonely as I have no support and am dealing with my dad's death and my mum's mean words. Also my normal health issues are a lot worse because of the anxiety. I know all the things to do for that....mindfullness ext but it doesn't change what's happening around me or the reactions my body has only keeps my mind a little more in control. Saying that there are moments where my brain seems to shut down and I keep having silly accidents like spilling things, forgetting my shopping from the local shop after I've paid walking off without it. Also walking in a room and forgetting why and forgetting arrangements from one day to the next. I'm feeling scared..mist of all because I can't seem to be strong enough to care for my children. Any advice or success stories of how you got through this type of situation or similar welcome.

Best wishes

Laurie xx

[Agora1]

LaurieRose, My sincerest sympathy on the passing of your father. You are at the time of your life where changes are happening everyday. The loss of parents, the teen years with it's own emotional ups and downs and all the while you handling your own anxiety. Your brain is overwhelmed right now in comprehending the daily demands of life. As a mother, you want to be there for your family but feel like you are losing it. It doesn't seem possible to have the strength to be in control. But you can be and you will be by taking time to meditate several times a day. You must take a few minutes for yourself each day to escape mentally from everything around you.

My go to is YouTube. Before the tears start, before the shaking starts internally, I type in Audio Relaxation/Deep Breathing 5-10minute videos. Find a quiet place where the lights are low or the shades are drawn for just those few minutes. Sit up straight, feet planted on the ground (helps with control) your hands resting gently on your legs and breathe.

Pick an audio where you are in tune with the speaker who will guide you through imagery and relaxation. Tune out the world, this is your time. Listen to each and every word they say as well as focus on the mountains or rippling water in the scenery so you will be both seeing and hearing. Breathe deeply...this will slow down the action of your mind and quiet your body as well. After the short video, sit for a moment and then go back to your busy chaotic life. Repeat this as often as you need that escape. Starting out your morning like this, as an afternoon break as well as before bed will give you a natural peace and calm.

You will get through this. The forum is always open to you reaching out for additional support and comfort. Welcome to life LaurieRose. We care xx

[LaurieRose in reply to Agora1]

Thank you so much so helpful. I found this so comforting.

Love and light

Laurie XX

[Anella]

Hi LaurieRose. I'm sorry that you are going through this grief as well as struggling to help your daughter grieve. I read an excellent brochure called "When Someone You Love Dies". That brochure was perfect because it was like a friend just talking with me and consoling me. It gave experiences that I could relate to. I really liked the section where it gives a list of positive thoughts that I read over from time to time to encourage me when I'm feeling low. It even lists and explains the stages of grief. It explains that we all go through the same stages of grief but sometimes in a different order and in different levels of intensity. I really appreciated that it explained how to give and receive comfort when grieving. I really believe you will love that part because it helps you with how to help your daughter go through the stages of grief in a way that is suitable for her. There is no cost for the brochure. I added the link below.

Please let me know what you think about the brochure and also how you and your daughter are doing.

jw.org/finder?wtlocale=E&pu...

[LaurieRose in reply to Anella]

thank you it sounds helpful I will look xx