Hello

Name is Alexander, there's this girl im really into who suffer from anxiety and agoraphobia. I'm really trying to get her to open up to me and let me be close to her which i don't know why i keep failing. im trying my hardest to learn about what she's going through read books Google everything. It took weeks of me begging and she finally let me be in the same place as her then stop answering my texts. She was talking about this site so i just decided to sign in so i can check up on her and see what's on her mind

[ECole97]

I have anxiety and my boyfriend had to go through what you are at first. It is very hard for us to open up, because a lot of our anxiety is irrational so we fear then of being judged. Atleast in my case. My boyfriend and i have been together almost 2 years and i am just now opening up to him about my anxiety as of a few months ago. Just love and support. Thats all you can do, she will open up eventually. 😊

[Hidden in reply to ECole97]

Can you give me some pointers, how did he get you to trust him? I wouldn't even mind just being her friend i just wish she'll let me come close and trust me with her thoughts

[ECole97 in reply to Hidden]

I can't even tell you if there is a right or wrong answer because we are all different. In the beginning it wasn't that i didnt trust him, but anxiety was so new to me, so i didnt even know how to deal with it, it was to a point where when i was anxious, he couldnt touch me, talk to me, even really be near me. After awhile i realized i wasn't going to get through it alone. Start slow, try to talk to her, remind her everything is going to be okay, reassure her that her fears aren't real. And remember she might not even speak but talk to her unless she tells you to stop. Once you get her to a point where she will open up and talk, ask if you can touch her, and if she says okay, give her a hug and talk her through it. You really have to take baby steps, but she will come through. Just give it time, and dont rush her!!

[Hidden in reply to ECole97]

Im patient. Im just starting to learn about mental illnesses so i definitely won't rush her. Thank you for the advice. I didn't know how hard anxiety could be