Stuck, sick of trying

I hate how anxiety works and how it can just get you stuck in a cycle. I try to be grateful for what I have, but with the constant anxiety and the way it's ruined everything I seriously hate my life. I'm sick of doing the same things over and over again and feeling the constant existential dread. I try to make changes in my life but the way I feel always holds me back. Anxiety started out with one things but now it's about everything. I've been trying so hard to get better and tried so many different things but it isn't working and each day I suffer adds on making me feel worse and worse. I dont know what to do, I feel so hopeless and it all feels pointless. I want to be the real me again but I dont know how to believe or have faith I'll ever get there.

[Agora1]

Hi LowkeyLoki, Sometimes trying too hard can fail us. You can't fight anxiety or wish it away. The only language it knows is Acceptance. With accepting that it is not harmful, will not kill you and will back down if you over ride it's power. By calling it's bluff, you lessen the fear. When the fear is lessened so is the adrenaline. When the adrenaline is lowered, the symptoms disappear. Sounds simple and it is but it takes determination, patience and strength to keep going forward. Never back up or you will find yourself in a corner again, stuck.

Reading Dr. Claire Weekes books on Hope&Help for your Nerves is all about the Acceptance approach to ridding yourself of anxiety once and for all. It explains the mechanics of how our mind plays tricks on us and how the body reacts to those negative thoughts.

I would continue using the forum as support as well as reading or listening to Dr. Weekes videos on YouTube. Her words are promising. She will give you hope. Nothing we do is pointless if it gives us our life back. xx

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I first listened to Claire Weekes a couple of months ago; it really helped me deal with panic attacks, but my anxiety always likes to change things up and make me learn to deal with a new symptom or sensation. I'll try listening to her work again. I just don't want to fight anymore...

[Agora1 in reply to Hidden]

Hi LowkeyLoki, I'm glad you have listened to Dr Claire Weekes in the past. It is something we have to keep refreshing our mind about since anxiety will continue to change it's pattern. That's what keeps anxiety going. By jumping from one thing to another it doesn't allow our body and mind to forget about it. Anxiety is like a bully who will keep taunting us until one day we turn around, look it straight in the eyes and Shout, "NO MORE"

That's when everything you have learned in accepting and floating past your fears will come into play. It will be more than words, it will take action on your part. Don't give up and stay strong. Keep using the forum for support. We will help each other through this. xx

[csheezy_152]

I'm fairly new 2 going through severe anxiety and I know exactly what your talking about...you'd probably give anything just 2 act like u again. My thought process with this is not trying 2 be me, but maybe a new me. Maybe changing some things up might help u deal sometime down the road...it will be a struggle and take time, but knowing this isn't anything terminal, u gotta start you're fight from there.

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I try to think that way too, that the experience will shape me to be a better and stronger person. I'm just waiting to be able to see that. It's good that you're seeking help away, I waited two years until shit hit the fan and then got help, which I really regret.

Best of luck to you!