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Leaving my dog for a long weekend

Hello everyone,

We're leaving my dog for 3 nights for the first time and ever since I booked the flight I've felt stomach pain and have had trouble sleeping. My brother will be at my house with my dog and I'm having a lot of difficulty handing over control. I keep thinking of the worse possible situations that could arise. Does anyone have any advice on how to calm myself or change my thought patterns? My dog is 9 years old and we've both never been away from him at the same time in all this time.

Thank you for your understanding,

Mel

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Man, are you talking to the right person. You know my Scooter died a few weeks ago, so you have the most raw and sensitive person you could talk to right now. Believe me your dog is a better dog than we will ever be people. Talk to him as though he was with you. Send a post card to your dog before you leave (lol)...

Leave a clearly read note about his vet, his diet, his time to walk, how often he needs to be out to pee, actually wash out the water bowl every day even though it looks clean, exact instructions about any medications, where he likes to sleep and leave some of your unwashed clothing so he can smell your scent, how you can be reached 24/7, leave music on if your dog is left alone and several lights and what to do if the unimaginable happens...where and which vet is to ease your dog from a fatal situation....with your clothing near his nose and in your brother's arms and if you want separate cremation and the ashes returned.

I think the three of you will be great.

Enjoy your get-away. :)

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I feel exactly the same. My husband and I have 4 dogs. One of them I had before I met my husband and she is my "baby". We are going on holiday soon and I'm already laying awake every night panicking about all the things that could happen to her whilst we are away. It's got to the point where I don't want to go on holidays anymore..... my husband just doesn't understand it. My friend comes to stay in the house whilst we are away and she had so done several times before so the dogs are used to her. She knows their routine and is kind and trustworthy. I don't worry about the others - just Mia. She's more sensitive and I love her with all my heart. I also worry if we are out at work. I worry about getting burgled and them hurting her. I panic about a fire and the dogs getting trapped. It's irrational.

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It's ok to a bit "irrational" sometimes, particularly when love is involved. And that's what you're saying. You love your dogs. And it's ok to be a little irrational even when you are being so thorough in your plan to have your wonderful dogs care for so well. A friend who is dog sitting and house sitting for you! How we envy you.

But now it's time to put that "irrational" in a box, tie it with a ribbon and put it under the bed and turn to your husband and be a bit irrational towards him because of your love for him.

It's time to just start thinking about the two of you and maybe some wonderful irrational adventure while you are escaping from everyday life. You two don't get many days alone together, so enjoy them when you can.

Yes, I think I feel your love for him in the air all the way over here....what's that old Beatles' refrain..."All you need is love, love...all you need is love...."

Believe me, the dogs and your friend are going to be chillin' out together having their own vacation, and would be wondering why in the world aren't you!

As much as Scooter and I were attached to one another, we both loved my husband as the "Top Dog" in our lives.

So, let go, feel happy and look forward to your holiday...even Mother's have to cut their apron strings sometimes. :) :) :) :)

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I have the same fears every time I'm away at work or gone for any amount of time. This is my first time leaving him and it's in a couple days. Wish I could stop the catastrophic thinking before I completely ruin the weekend.

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OMG this is so wonderful - brought tears to my eyes 👀.

Yeah this has gotta be the best advice ever for everyone who loves their dogs 🐶 as much as you both do . Cheers for making my day 👍 x

Elle

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Well, with 5 children and your health care career, I admire you and don't know how you do it. Glad to be of some help but how do you manage a holiday? :)

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Hi PTSDforyears ✋️

I don't have a holiday as such only a break from work which trust me is heaven lol , kids are all grown up and spread their wings so I get peace n quite except for my Floyd music 🎶 which shouldn't be heard unless it's loud . Just getting sore more with pain from Oesophagus gullet which biopsies were taken for very possible Barrets Oesophagus- results take up to 4-5 weeks to come back from pathology department. Anxiety being numbed by strong painkillers so hell I needed shit to find a refuge from anxiety- crazy eh but being honest I don't care about myself- never have but I do care about my family and you guys and hope someday a cure can come along to help everyone- even though I doubt that'll ever happen x

Thankyou for your kind words and replying x hope all is well on the home front and things pick up for you ✌🏻.

Take care 🌹

Elle

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Dear Elle,

Regret you are needing the biopsies....so you are taking pain meds for your esophagus and the biopsies? Make certain you are taking extra fiber as when I take pain meds the other end of my body has problems if I don't. Not familiar with your condition. Not to pry, but hope there is a medical cure or containment if the biopsies are positive.

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Thankyou so much PTSD x

I am touched by your words and can only hope it isn't Barrets Oesophagus because it's a step closer to and including Cancer of the Oesophagus- it's not in my throat it's where the food pipe joins the stomach 🙂 on the junction- read up and you'll understand what I mean x getting ready for work just now ( yeah 12 hours gruelling work which I can't afford to be sick ) but I'm a fighter lol so I won't let it beat me xx catcha later PRSD and Thankyou again n I promise to continue healthy eating 😊

Best wishes

Elle xx

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Hi melhil 🖐

Hope you enjoy your holiday and wish I could witness your return when your 🐶 sees you again x Fantastic person you are to love your dog as much as you do - he's a family member and not just an animal eh . 👍x

Elle

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Thank you. Believe it or not after sitting in the plane for 1 hour it was cancelled. I am back home.

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I'm so disappointed. I spent so many days stressing and anxious about this weekend and then it doesn't even end up happening. It doesn't seem real.

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Awe Melhil

I am so saddened you don't have a good experience with everything going wrong and not a holiday as planned xx

Take care

Elle xx

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