Anxiety

[Boo153]

Hi need someone to talk to not coping with anxiety it's been 9 month 24/7 seen my anxiety started didn't no what was wrong with me I'm so, scared. I have insomnia and tinitus.

[melc77]

Have you talked to your doctor about your anxiety? There is no need to be embarrassed. It is VERY common, and there are many helpful treatments.

[Boo153 in reply to melc77]

I have spoken to my gp I've got no one to talk to I'm doing this all on my own I'm waiting for appointments For Cbt I dread getting up in the morning. Cause I no I'm going to be the same

[melc77 in reply to Boo153]

I hear you! I read an article recently that reminded me of this: Anxiety is not a quick problem, either coming on or getting over. Try to be patient, and be in the moment rather than where your anxiety wants to take you. Here is a link to the article. I hope it helps. heysigmund.com/dealing-with...

[Boo153 in reply to melc77]

Sorry I wasn't be rude I just feel like my life is over I've had thought About suicide.

[Agora1 in reply to Boo153]

Boo153, I never take the thought of suicide lightly. It is a serious contemplation in dealing with anxiety and it's symptoms. Hopelessness doesn't last forever believe me. There will come a day that you will be glad to be alive and leave all the bad memories behind you.

Is someone with you now? You say you are dealing with this all alone. I did too, by choice because no one understood what I was feeling or going through. Being alone doesn't mean you can't go on. Who better to understand what you are feeling than yourself. No putdowns, no name calling like psycho etc. Each one of us has a strength that we can draw from during our time of crisis. I know we can help you get through this but first and utmost you need to get rid of any thoughts of self harm. It may mean going to the ER or calling your doctor/therapist but you need to get your thoughts in priority right now.

We are here for each other on the forum. We understand, we care about each other. So in that respect you are never alone.

Please let us know what we can do to help you. x

[Boo153 in reply to Agora1]

I live in Stoke on trent all my family live in London I have 3 lovely children I find it hard speaking to them as they as my daughter have gone thought rape and abuse at a young age from there dad I'm feeling the guilt I'm splitting from my partner told him I Dnt love him anymore everything has caught up with me thought I could deal with all this on my own.

[Ian17 in reply to Boo153]

Hi Boo153 I have just pick your post up and really feel for you. I have suffered since last September and know how bad it can get even with good family around me. It does help if you have somebody to talk to. I have always been open how I'm feeling and going though, it amazes me how many people are suffering the same too. The CBT therapist are really good and understanding although had to wait 3 months until they could get me in. What symptoms are you having? Do you have any good moments at all?

[Boo153 in reply to Ian17]

Thanks for the kind words I get panicky pulpertation Sweaty shaky. Feeling faint I have some good day but this day Dnt last to long

[Ian17 in reply to Boo153]

I have had all those feelings in the earlier days, symptoms do change. I have some symptom every single day, some days are worse than others. I feel as though some days I'm getting there then bang! You start feeling all weird again, almost feel as your body is lacking something, not functioning right. I have learnt to manage it all better now mostly thorough talking and exercise. Just remember the hardest fight you will ever have is with yourself. Stay strong you will get there.

[Boo153 in reply to Ian17]

Hi, can you give me some advise just been docter I'm coming off zopilone and he's given me diazipan just want to no how are they going to make me feel had anyone else had these x

[Ian17 in reply to Boo153]

I've always refused medication as I think they can make you feel worse, doctors can prescribe medication but not all understand what you really are going through. CBT worked well for me and am thinking of having some top up sessions. I'm not saying meds don't help but personally I don't want to go down that road. My Doc tried to give me anti depressants! I'm not depressed But he said they might help.

[Boo153 in reply to Ian17]

I've started. Taper ING my zopiclone. And I'm having the worst to weeks. I've got more anxiety Then ever

[Ian17 in reply to Boo153]

I think you can feel worse with some medication at first until they kick in which will only make your anxiety worse. Don't suffer, give your Doc a call for advise. It probably is normal but they may also not be suiting you.

[Boo153 in reply to Ian17]

My tinitus is what's keeping my anxiety I think it's that loud cause I can't sleep I had tinitus at the being bit I had large lump of wax in my ear since it's been taken out the noise has change to a loud hissing noise they say I have blisters in my ear keep giving me ear drops but not helping and its causing me so much distress

[Ian17 in reply to Boo153]

That must be horrible, may sound silly but have you tried relaxing with some headphones and music. I know it won't cure it but might give some some respite

[Boo153 in reply to Ian17]

Hi lan17 are you still going through anxiety want symptoms have you got I rather go though labour than have this so glad I have people to talk to now does help a bit xx

[Ian17 in reply to Boo153]

Hi, yes I'm still suffering on a daily basis, just don't feel myself but hard to describe, it is almost like I'm dragging my body around. I have jaw tension too. I am thinking of going private for some more CBT rather than have to wait 3 months to be seen on the NHS. Talking and reassurance is the best medication. I still try and do most daily activities but feel weak with this feeling. I keep saying to myself tomorrow is another day, nothing changers at the moment, I go to the gym 3 times a week which does make me feel better for a few hours but it's soon back. Hang in there, keep fighting you will have better days but there is no over night cure. Try thinking positive happy thoughts and don't let it beat you. I'm determined to get back my normal self. It's knocks you down you just need to get back up and fight. It's hard to believe the mind can do this to you even though your longing to feel normal. Keep talking and asking questions on here. It's another road to recovery. X

[Boo153 in reply to Ian17]

I Dnt want to feel like a pain keep asking question. went to see my doctor today me wasn't Very understanding he have diazipan but I'm not going to take them. last year I went 3 months. Without no sleep and lost my job because of it I was just getting my confidence Back. Sorry if I keep going on x

[Ian17 in reply to Boo153]

Hey don't worry, your not going on. Anxiety is horrible, it wasn't that long ago I was at my worst and didn't know which way to turn. It really does help talking about it. If you can get by without taking the Meds that's great as I believe the only mask it and make you feel worse, CBT and meds would probably work better together farther just meds on there own. Ask anything you want to. You will get there you really will. I know it doesn't seem like it now. It's almost like you have to get really bad before you start to have some better days.

[Boo153 in reply to Ian17]

"morining. it better this morning didn't get much sleep, partner was. snoring which woke me up and grinding his teeth. which I can't stand got up worry already about how my days going to go keep trying to think of nice things but I got no nice thinks to think of everything that goes though my mind is bad. ant stand people. that abuse children. and do the time and get out of prison and happily get on with the life as if nothing happened and I'm left picking up the piece AGAIN X

[Ian17 in reply to Boo153]

Hi, hope your day has been a little better. It's a vicious circle. I do exactly the same, wake up and wonder how you are going to feel. Boom 💥 you have already triggered your Anxiety. Try saying, here we go again and let your thoughts come and go. Sometimes helps to lay down close your eyes letting your thoughts just come and go, take time out for just you. Your mind is working 24-7. Imagine running for 24 hours, your legs and lungs would just not cope. It's a bit like your brain working overtime. It really is all about rewiring your brain. Give meditation a try when you feel bad. It won't happen over night but believe me you will eventually have better days. We are all working towards having more better days than not, 3 weeks is my best without Anxiety then was triggered again. You have got over the first hurdle by talking about it. Is your partner understanding? It can be hard on them too. X

[Boo153 in reply to Ian17]

He said it's me doing to myself I've got really Bad tinitus very sensitive. To loud noises which bring on my anxiety I've been bad all day can't cope with any noise what so ever until I can sort my tinitus. Out I don't think my anxiety Will ever go

[Ian17 in reply to Boo153]

It will, hang in there 👍 CBT will work wonders for you. I felt so much better after 6 sessions. I had the highest score of 20 down to 6. The only problem with the NHS, they get you down to a good level then sign you off. I was ready to fly solo but relapsed a few weeks after. I have learned to control it better now but still need some top up appointments which I'm going to go private for as I have a few family health issues to deal with again. Make sure you smile everyday and keep fighting! YOU WILL GET THERE 👌

[Boo153 in reply to Ian17]

Sorry that your still going though anxiety I Dnt no much about anxiety. this is my first time so I find it hard to control it x

[Ian17 in reply to Boo153]

Believe me I'm not anywhere near as bad as I was a few months ago, there is light at the end of the tunnel

[Boo153 in reply to Agora1]

Does anyone no how to cope with tinitus I have a high pitch hissing and I can't stand. It any load noises. Make me panicky and cry it's there 24/7 it makes my anxiety Even worse I'm waiting for cbt it's like waiting forever

[Boo153 in reply to melc77]

Hi I'm having a really bad day not coping very well can't go On Anymore x

[Boo153 in reply to melc77]

It's feels like I'm having a mental break down and it's hell

[Emest86]

Ring the Samaritans Hun they will always be there 24/7 also look in to insight healthcare they do cbt therapy through the NHS and the waiting list is shorter than Trent pts. Look at getting some antidepressants from your dr and read 'self help for your nerves' by dr Claire weeks. It's an old book and some of it is outdated like talking about shock therapy but her advice is sound and it has changed my life. I still have bad days but not as bad and I am more positive. Big hugs xx

[Boo153 in reply to Emest86]

Thanks for the kind words I had quite a few symptoms last year constant. Shaking pressure. In my head panic attacks sweats bones hurting I was bed riden cant even go out the door I was fainting pulpertation you name I had everything I no I have got better since then I've to everything I've been told breathing meditation.which I do every night my tinitus doest help must say I was more relaxed last night Then I was the other day I'm on care beta blocker and sleeping tables. Catalopram I keep getting this feeling I need to cry all the time and it scare me. I've got appointment with For Cbt in August I hope it help me cause it I've got no hope anymore

[Boo153]

I've just been up sience 5.15 my symptom have just stared pulpertation. Feeling faint feeling sick I've just had enough it's like this every Morning I'm even Scare to cry incase it make me bad I no that sounds stupid don't even. No who I am anymore just want my life back surpose to be going London To see All the family but I can't like this can't even go out for a meal with my kids

[Nicki1984 in reply to Boo153]

Have a read of Anxiety Panicking about Panic by Justin Fletcher and DARE by Barry Mcdonagh. Your breathing is so important. When you feel anxious/Panicking try holding your breath for a while and then slowly breath out do this until you feel calmer. Some anxiety symptoms are caused by too much oxygen. I do meditation classes and have found belly breathing helpful one hand on tummy and one on chest, take a breath in pushing your tummy in and raising your chest, then a breath out lower your chest and push out your belly again do this daily. When breathing concentrate on your breath out I always try and make this breath longer than the breath in - it's connected to your parasympathetic nervous system - helps your body to relax. Before your counselling starts write down as much as you can about your triggers and what's happened in your past the more you have to work through the better. The first few counselling sessions can be emotionally draining but then the weight starts to lift and you can think clearer again and stronger. X

[Boo153 in reply to Nicki1984]

Please could you give me some advice I've been on zopiclone for 7month if I Dnt get enough sleep on them when I get up in the morning I start to feel faint sick bad and get really bad puputation stomach. Is it because the sopiclone still working. I feel better after 20 mninute so badly Want to come off them xxxzx

[Nicki1984 in reply to Boo153]

Can you ask your doc to try a different med as they don't seem to be agreeing with you. X

[Boo153 in reply to Nicki1984]

Iis only been the last couple of months. Since it's been happening was Rd your surpose to get 8hours slept on sopiclone if I don't I get dizzy 😵 my doctors is not very helpful my doctor said I'm come in and waste his time sorry if I keep messaging you xx

[Nicki1984 in reply to Boo153]

Your doc is not very sympathetic maybe ask for a different doc you need appropriate support. I'm not sure about the meds I tried proponolol a low dose for a short while but it didn't work for me. X

[Boo153 in reply to Nicki1984]

I'm On 40 propranolol. and it does work for me if it wasn't for my tables I would of took an overdoes

[Nicki1984 in reply to Boo153]

Glad they are working for you x

[Boo153 in reply to Nicki1984]

I am seeing a mental health clinic it's just waiting for the next appointment I have acsess. Team that I phone when I not coping but I rather speak face to face someone it just feels that my whole Body want to give up and not go on I'm missing out on alot of things with this anxiety. I have to be occupied. All, the time just to get though the day and it exhausting. Especially When I've got insomnia I need a good night of normal sleep it's killing me lost my job because of my sleep all, that keeps going though my brain everyday is can't go on for another day feeling like this

[Nicki1984 in reply to Boo153]

I know how you feel and you will get through it. Fingers crossed not too much longer for you to wait for counselling. X

[Boo153 in reply to Nicki1984]

Thanks hun for speaking to me its the only way to get me though is to have someone to speak, to that's going though the same thing hope your feeling OK xx

[Boo153 in reply to Nicki1984]

How do you cope with your anxiety what are your symptoms. Just trying to come of sleeping tablets. But it's making me worse

[Nicki1984 in reply to Boo153]

At my worse I wasn't sleeping and having panic attacks - have IBS and general anxiety. I found counselling great, self help books, aromatherapy, salt baths, massage etc useful and basically a declutter of my life - detaching from negative people and situations, not over committing i.e. Learning to say no. Acceptance is importance of who you are what you can't change etc processing things from the past that might be affecting the future x

[Nicki1984 in reply to Nicki1984]

Also meditation classes, breathing exercises, YouTube videos x

[Boo153 in reply to Nicki1984]

I'm splitting from my parnter due to my anxiety who still live with me hoping that he goes next week cause Al I can think about is having my own space hope it will make me better can I talk about other thing apart from anxiety On this forum

[Nicki1984 in reply to Boo153]

Nothing wrong with putting yourself first and getting your head straight. Depends what you need advice on as lots of different forums can give more specific advice. X

[Boo153 in reply to Nicki1984]

Can, I talk about anything on this forum is it just for anxiety

[Agora1 in reply to Boo153]

Boo153, of course you can talk about anything on this forum. It usually has to do with the anxiety you are feeling.

[Boo153 in reply to Nicki1984]

I'm having a really bad night just Dnt want to be here anymore scare I'm going to do something stupid

[Agora1 in reply to Boo153]

What's happening tonight that you feel out of control?

[Boo153 in reply to Agora1]

I've got so much pressure in my head can't think straight.chest pains have come back just so exhausted just going to be the same tomorrow

[Agora1 in reply to Boo153]

Sorry Boo153, I was reading over your last several posts. You've got a lot going on right now, the tinnitus isn't helping (that would agitate anyone) You are not doing that to yourself. Maybe seeing an ENT doctor could help.

More than that is the hopeless feeling you are experiencing that is bringing you to this point of severe anxiety. It doesn't mean it will go on forever. You need to address one issue at a time with a good therapist.

Weaning off medication is probably not the best time for you right now but then again when is it?

Is your GP handling your meds or a psychiatrist. It seems like you have a lot of unsolved issues hanging over you as well as anger. Your mind is crying out for an escape for a while. Using a therapist may allow that escape for moments at a time so that you can move forward and not stay stuck. What are your thoughts right now?

[Boo153 in reply to Agora1]

Hi just wishing I can have a normal sleep like everyone that's why I need to come of sleeping tablets I have cut down the dose but side effect makes my anxiety. Worse I do listen to meditation. On my phone helps me relax but dont make me sleep I even find it hard having a bath I'm trying to do everything. I can it's so hard to get up and do anything it's the more I try my anxiety. Still the same. So what the point in trying xx

[Boo153 in reply to Agora1]

Hi. Agora can you tell me if it'd normal to keep having pulsing in your belly from anxiety it's there all days x

[Agora1 in reply to Boo153]

Hi Boo153, It's always best to run this by your doctor. It's been known on thin people to be able to actually see the pulse beating. x

[Boo153 in reply to Agora1]

Is it normal. To have anxiety First thing thing every morning

[Agora1 in reply to Boo153]

Boo153, You can almost count on it..The Cortisol levels are the highest in the morning, making our adrenaline go wild.

First thing upon awakening in the morning I use deep breathing as well as listening to a relaxation tape before getting out of bed. I've learned staying in bed once the anxiety starts just allows it to build. If you move your muscles, get ready for the day, you will feel much better. By moving you will be using the extra adrenaline which will calm your body. By focusing on other things, it will calm your mind.

[Boo153 in reply to Agora1]

Hi angora my anxiety Is getting so much better I'm thinking a abit more positive still got along way to go but I'm getter there I'm waiting to see councilling and relaxing classes x

[Agora1 in reply to Boo153]

Boo153, I am so glad to hear that. You are moving in the right direction. Eventually you will be able to leave this all behind you. Keep up the positive attitude it will get you far. I'd be interested in knowing how the relaxing classes work for you.

My best to you. x

[Boo153 in reply to Agora1]

Hiya I'm still waiting for my classes there a waiting list I'm getting better every week even my sleep is going back to normal so there is some hope of me getting better xx

[Agora1 in reply to Boo153]

I'm so happy to hear that Boo153. Time has a way of healing both the mind and body. I hope it won't be too much longer before class starts. Keep doing what you are doing in getting better. Apparently it works for you. Still want to know about those relaxing classes once you start. I think you are really going to benefit from them.

Take care. x

[Boo153 in reply to Agora1]

I will let you no how I get on I still get abit of anxiety First thing in the morning but I can just brush it off now xx

[Agora1 in reply to Boo153]

Me too Boo.....Me too

Small steps, but continue going forward x

[Boo153 in reply to Agora1]

Hi angora I'm doing much better the last time I spoke to you finding it hard to run a family house hold xx

[Agora1 in reply to Boo153]

Hi Boo153, I'm so glad to hear that things are getting better for you since a month ago. Are you currently in the "relaxation class"? Continue using all the skills you are learning. Running a family household is a full time job Give yourself credit for each and every day you succeed. You've come a long way and I'm proud of the progress you have made. I wish you continued success. Those baby steps did take you to where you are today.

My best to you. We are always here for each other on the forum xx

[Nicki1984 in reply to Boo153]

Hiya hang in there the bad feelings will pass focus on the help and counselling you will get soon which will make a real difference. Try putting some things into practice tonight so you feel a bit more in control - maybe some YouTube vids on anxiety or meditation whatever you feel you need x

[Boo153 in reply to Nicki1984]

I'm having a bad time trying to come off sleeping tabs and it's making me bad Dnt no what to do never going to natural sleep it's killing me

[Nicki1984 in reply to Boo153]

If you can't wait for counselling on the NHS google the counselling directory for counsellors in your area I used this to find my therapist x

[Boo153 in reply to Nicki1984]

Has cbt helped you can they help me with bad thought and to think positive.

[Nicki1984 in reply to Boo153]

Yes absolutely counselling and cbt will help with everything. Just be open and honest and they can help x

[Boo153 in reply to Nicki1984]

Have you had cbt how can I, stop myself from thinking negative all, the time so you have addive pls xx

[Nicki1984 in reply to Boo153]

I had counselling and we did some cbt. It's about challenging your negative thoughts and asking for 'evidence' for example I may feel people don't like me but I can't find the evidence for this. Finding ways to break the anxiety cycles it depends on a lot of things what your triggers and and when. When does your counselling start x

[Nicki1984]

Hi there everything with stress/anxiety does reach a breaking point and that's when you know and accept to take help around you. They wait for counselling/cbt can be hard I ended up going privately as NHS was taking too long. Counselling has been a lifesaver. Would also recommend self help books and info on YouTube to help you get by. However the counselling will help you to deal with the past and stop worrying about the future and help you live and enjoy now. Good luck xx

[melc77]

Sorry, I didn't think you were being rude. I just meant that I know how you feel. Like, "well, this is my life now, and it sucks." But then I remember that I have gotten over anxiety before, and that I will do it again. It takes time and work, but it can be done. Try not to think too far ahead. Just focus on getting through today, and know that those upcoming appointment will help you, eventually.

[Boo153 in reply to melc77]

ThankYou I'm feeling Abit more positive Today just taking one day at a time xx,

[Ian17 in reply to Boo153]

That's all you can do boo153 take each day at a time. Just thinking about it cam trigger Anxiety that's why it is such a viscous circle. It's all about rewiring your brain, I'm stubborn so ha big fight on my hands lol

[anxietymadman123]

what are your symptoms?

[Thkdiffgirl]

Hi, I am so sorry for your pain, I understand. Please try to breath and hang in there. I am new to this forum and at times need help myself. However, with years of anxiety , tummy breathing helps, and I found this one book that helped , if I can remember to keep reading highlights myself! I am not a self help book reader , but I got this book from reading another's anxiety problem on a forum. Its called , The Anxiety Phobia Workbook, 6th edition, by Edmund J. Bourne, PHD. I can say it helped me understand why I may panic, and actually has some helpful tricks when you have an attack. I just have been really busy and forget to re-read this book when I am feeling down. 😊 but when I read it , it actually helps . Best of luck to you.

[Boo153 in reply to Thkdiffgirl]

Hiya any ideas on how I can cope with symptoms I'm OK when I'm occupied sort of as soon as I go to relax I start worry about my symptoms I fine that I'm am a l having to be on the go just to get by another day It's so frustrating I'm Not a very positive Person since Having anxiety I have a lump In my thoat With causing me to panic

[Boo153 in reply to Thkdiffgirl]

Morning. What boot is it that your reading where can I get it from

[Will83]

Please take advice to heart. We are all here for each other. I've been here a couple weeks or so and it's helped a lot

[Boo153 in reply to Will83]

Hiya is it normal to have pulsing in your a stomach 24/7

[Will83]

Sometimes. You should feel a pulse everywhere thru your body. But if it's visible I'd suggest getting seen by a doc

[Boo153]

I have he said it's normal just about my belly button it pounds more when I do anything x

[Will83]

Hate to ask this but can you text? Easier for me to reply quicker 😁 are you fit? Age? Do physical work daily?

[Boo153]

Sorry I'm 45 I try to physical work daily I was doing to much last year that's what brought my anxiety On I lost my job last year due to be being so bad I had every physical symptom I have gotten better since last year and I've only just split from my partner

[Boo153]

Hiya Where are you from