Im scared to start working

[LadyCourtessa]

Ive been offered a position in my old intern company... where i dont like my boss in the department but they offer me a job and im happy but im scared.. so scared that i cried a lot just because of this... its a good thing that i dot have to apply and all for a job but why am i like this? even at this moment im crying.. I really hate my anxiety disorder... it makes my life difficult and complcated... anyone have u guys encounter this problem..

[Hidden]

I think your just feeling a bit insecure about the new job and I think that's pretty common and normal really .

Now come on , you have a wonderful life ahead of you,

Maybe it's time to start thinking in a diffrant way ?

And realise that you are stunning ,gifted , lucky. Educated , loved. And you can actually have a pretty amazing life ,if you just tweak the way you think a little.

I know you can do it.

So do you .

Go enjoy as ime sure you will .

And that old boss you don't like lol

Go show him your better than him and make taking his position your goal ,

Lol now theirs a thought that will make you feel good .

[LadyCourtessa in reply to Hidden]

oh well thank you for ur positive vibe nd feedback and that does makes me feel good...

[Hidden in reply to LadyCourtessa]

Seriously miss you have the world at your feet , I'm not understating the way you feel in any shape or form as I've suffered anxiety and panic attacks and panic disorder for 38 years so I do know how terrible and debilitating it is.

However I'm 53 today I have gone on to have 8 stunning children all doing very well in life.

I've had a lot of fun along the way and all in all I've not had too bad a life because I've never had anybody i.e. Parents family etc to rely on so I've just had to grin and bear it and get on with life so I did !!!

What's the alternative ?

Give up and die ?

End up in a mental institution?

Commit suicide ?

They really were not options to my way of thinking how about you ?

See , so like I say ,you have everything to live for and everything going for you and I hope for your sake you go for it and live your wonderful life.

God bless.

[Dave_Scott86]

I'm a big believer when it comes to employment that you work to live, and not live to work. Work is not your life, it is so you can fund your life. So you can afford food, shelter and all the rest of the nice things you want to do.

You should never have to put up with nasty bosses. If the thought of working there is making you anxious then it's probably not worth it. If you're anxious now, how much worse will it be when you get there?

Yeah it's easy because it's offered to you on a plate but is it really worth it?

Try finding something different, perhaps? Something that you would get enjoyment out of and not have to deal with bad bosses?

[LadyCourtessa in reply to Dave_Scott86]

its a very good advise Dave Scott... thank you so much.... I love to cook but im not a qualified chef so i cant find a job in cooking area so for now i had to force myself to work there before i can find smthng else....

But ur advise really put me at ease...thank u so much

[NFDK]

Excellent advice, Dave_Scott86

[Grace754]

Sounds overwhelming, but I can relate. I am dealing with a similar issue. Other than Mental Wellness therapy, I ease my work anxiety by looking for other options of employment and other streams of income. This also enables me to keep holding on to hope of a better work experience.

[LadyCourtessa in reply to Grace754]

Yes yes same!! Im thinking of start my own business cause at least i can work on my own.. So how do u settle the issue?

[Redhots7]

Lady Cortessa, do you financially need this job NOW? If not, would in my opinion, do not go back to a job that causes you stress everyday. It is TRUE, you work to live not live to work but you spend ( normally) 8 waking hrs a day at work . You already know how just the thought of working there is a Hugh trigger for you. I am a believer in listening to yourself , it is nice to know they want you back , is it possible you could work in another department, under a different boss? The fact they want you back says they will give you a good reference when you apply somewhere else. That should give you confidence to apply somewhere else. Fresh slate, new beginnings, new people, kinda exciting! Get resumé together, go with head held high and find that job thats waiting for you😘