Day After Day Night After Night

[smjtty]

My this is not like living

I feel and look dead

But it has not killed

Me yet there is know life

Left the lonylness is

Killing me also I'm so sick

All the time

[Annie55406]

I have had a hard time with loneliness, too, since my husband died, almost 4 years ago.

i don't know if this would help you, but I have decided to get a little dog to love and care for. If you like dogs and are healthy enough to care for one, I know that it would add so much to your life. Just a suggestion, but it is working for me. Please keep in touch with us, OK ?

[smjtty in reply to Annie55406]

I Have 4 Cats

[JackMcG]

Smjtty, it sounds to me like you are suffering an acute episode of anxiety, depression. Please, my friend, take my advice. See a doctor if you can, speak to the doctor at length, tell him/her exactly how you are feeling and if there are times or things that make it worse. You may need some medication or even some psychotherapy. I know when I was acutely ill with anxiety depression nothing seemed like a good idea. I felt hopelessly trapped and unable to connect with even one other human being. Everything in this universe is temporary. Please be strong and tough this out. If it helps share your feelings here. There is no judgement here. Just love, support and encouragement. You CAN get through this. I will pray for you my friend. Please try to see a doctor. With prayers and best wishes

Jack

[smjtty]

doctor wants me to have crazy pills many more problems not just one

[judy1713]

Nothing wrong with taking antidepresents they help, you would be soooo amazed at how much they can help. I still have a lot of fear and anxity and panic, but its a lot better than it was before the pills. try it, what can it possibly hurt if you are this bad off ??? It is worth a try, Good luck

[judy1713 in reply to judy1713]

I am very lonely too, widowed for over 8 years, am alone almost all of the time, I have cats one inside two strays outside and in the garage and several Feral Cats I feed. I am 67, have two Grandchildren 14 and 18, they are fantastic But..... they are very busy with their friends and social life. My son is wonderful we see each other once or twice a week on the average and talk for Maybe 10 to 15 min. a day. And I am agoraphobic so I very seldom get out of the house. that leaves Many many hours of being alone. Sometimes I pace the floor trying to figure out WHO I could call and talk to for a little while. I read, take care of my sons home and mine and cook for him and my grand kids, and drop the meals off so they will have food when they are ready for it. I also sit with their dog while I do the laundry, and clean, so it doesn't have to be in a cage all day while they are away. I never eat out, go to movies, vacations, any form of ballgames, no form of intertainment, showers nothing like that. That's the Agoraphobia, The pills help get me through the panic and fear and anxity and depression. I believe they will help you. Please try them. I take Xanax and I have been on the same dosage for many years. so its not like I need more and more. people take meds for many things, such as high blood pressure, pain, high colesteral, and the list goes on, why not something to help your mind deal with all the problems in life ?? It actually can help with some of your health problems.

[JackMcG in reply to judy1713]

Hi Judy,

I just wanted to say that I think such advice coming from someone with your experience is obviously very good advice. I couldn't help but feel my heart go out to you. Agoraphobia is obviously a completely crippling condition. I knew a little bit about it, but reading your experience which you wrote so well and so movingly has really opened my eyes.

I'd really like to start a charity for agoraphobics, or raise awareness of this terrible condition. I have suffered long periods of loneliness, but not due to agoraphobia, due to chronic social anxiety. My heart really does go out to you Judy. You are such a strong lady, you keep yourself busy caring for others. Im glad you have such a supportive son and you have grand children to enjoy.

This forum is so special. I'm so glad I found it. Where else would someone get such good advice from someone with such long, hard won experience?

I just want to say I admire your courage and the fact that you are such a humble and caring person that you are prepared to share your experience to help others.

I really do wish you all the best, and I can only pray that your symptoms of agoraphobia will ease.

Jack.

[judy1713 in reply to JackMcG]

Thank you Jack, as with everyone some days are good some days are bad. I was lucky I had a wonderful husband that understood me, and did everything he could to make my life better. we bought a place on 7 acres and him, being a jack of all trades brought the heavy Equipment home from work and cleared our land, put in two ponds, stocked them for fishing, so him ,our son, and me could go fishing together. Made a couple hills, which we call our mountains. and put a gravel-dirt road all around so we could take country walks and rides on our golf cart. We had Swans that just WALKED in one day and stayed. Walked in because the males wing was broken. SO many, Geese, and Turtle, frogs, coons, opossums, Fox, cyottes, even foxoaties , never heard of them til we seen one and looked it up. Feral cats, and the list goes on and on. country critters, Oh and Beautiful Deer running and playing on the Mountain, and in the Orchard. But theres always some bad with the good, We have to fight with the Hunters every year !!! This is the animals safe place, they deserve a safe place, right ?? This is not a fancy beautiful new house with a flowers and well manicured lawn. Its beautiful wild country And of course, its getting run down, since my husband passed away over eight years ago. But we... my Son, Grandson And Grand daughter And ALL their Friends love it Its great for them to bring their friends and have a country bonfire , relax, laugh, talk and hide out from the hassel of the day. So I've really had a great life but.... with lots of Fear, anxiety, panic and depression, and limitations. Nothing in life is perfect, is it. Thank you for your kind and understanding words and thoughts

[Gogo1]

I'm an asst.Pastor who was hit with a panic attack 7months ago along with anxiety and depression out of nowhere ,everything was going right in my life as far as I was concerned, I ended up in the ER after a week ,confused and bewildered I thought my life was over,was given zanax which I took in moderation, then began to push back as hard as I could, I called every believer that knew had to pray, listening to bible verses like nobody's business, and cryed out to God and to my surprise he answered. It try's to come back to no avail, I would never have thought I would be on a post like this but let me remind you and everyone else that there is HOPE ,refuse to accept this and push (pray until something happens ) Goliath can be beaten and God will get the glory in Jesus name

[JackMcG in reply to Gogo1]

So happy to hear that you were able to beat this monster that is anxiety/depression. It really is a monster, isn't it. I have a strong faith. However when my anxiety has been at its worst, prayer helped to give the courage and will to keep pushing forward but it was modern medicine that made the symptoms recede to the point of being manageable.

I really do believe that the power of prayer helps, but I also believe that anxiety for some is either an acute illness or chronic condition and both require medical intervention.

My personal advice to someone suffering profound anxiety would be consult a doctor first for proven, reliable pharmaceutical intervention and help. Consult a pastor second for spiritual help. Both of these approaches helped me. But just as if I broke my leg, I would go to hospital not church, my advice to people suffering excruciating, profound anxiety is seek medical help first.

God bless you pastor, and thank you for bringing faith into this discussion. It has helped me to deal with the fact that I have a chronic illness.

Jack.