Struggling today....

[gldavis447]

So I'm finding it hard to get any belief today, any motivation, I feel like I'm stuck in a hole and I can't get out. My partner is getting frustrated with me because I never want to go out,  because I never go over to see his family...what do you do when its his family and their opinions that affect your anxiety?My way is to avoid them but its just causing problems between me and him. Help  

[Twinkle333]

My ex partners family were very much the "Pull you're self together" type and it affected my anxiety too they didn't really believe in mental illness they thought it was a matter of just nit thinking about it my partner was they same way he's now my ex become was so so insensitive towards my illness and strangly enough he's suffered depression since we broke up so it I guess he does believe it can and does affect you in a terrible way,  my advice would be talk to you're partner and tell him it's really difficult for you and you feel pressure to be "ok" whilst around them in in turn that worsens youre symptoms I hope he can understand how this feels for you 

[sweetpickle1967]

You have to be honest with him, if he loves you, he will understand and will take actions to get his family to be nice. If you are a Christian, pray for God to intercede and ask your friends to pray for you to overcome the anxiety. I've had anxiety for years and mostly it was caused by my perceptions being distorted. I had to get a grip on the reality of the situations. Then I realized, there wasn't anything to be worried about. 

[gldavis447]

Thanks guys, sometimes I think maybe I'm being a bit silly and its just my depression playing games with my mind again but all I know is I find it extremely hard to be around his Mum. I find myself doing everything to please her which just isnt right and I find her opinions just to be soul destroying.  I have spoken to my partner many times but he thinks ignoring her isnt the answer and that i'm just being aawkward. I dont know how to deal with it.

[Pat9]

you are dealing with it in your own way, to change would mean giving in to her ways and your body is telling you that is not what YOU want, tell your partner to speak to his Mother not you and ask her to let up on you and then you will feel better about visiting her, it is not you who needs to change it is her Be gentle with yourself xx

[gldavis447]

Thanks Pat9, your words really mean a lot. I am one of those who takes an awful long time to get over things so when somebody says hurtful and nasty things it takes me a while to deal with it. I think that is why I stay away. I cant deal with the opinions and the assumptions when they are always wrong.