Long story short, I was married for 10 years to an abusive man. He still tries to control me with threats etc but I am coping with that pretty much. Problem is last year I started dating a new man who I used to know years ago from uni. He is lovely but two main problems: 1. His job - he works every day except Saturdays and 2. He lives 1 hr 40 mins away. This makes getting quality time together very difficult indeed. The current pattern is that we usually see each other weekend (when I don't have my kids); he'll drive down on Friday evening and leave Sunday lunchtime for work. More difficult for me as I have a dog. I have been up to him a few times and have met his friends and parents who are all fab.
Problem is, I just don't know how this can develop into a meaningful relationship? As much as I want it to, I just don't see how it's going to work. He is 39 and has never been engaged/married; he says this is because he has never found 'The One' but I am not sure this is entirely true. His job as it is a big sticking point beause he's head of his department and his working hours are ridiculously anti-social (see above). Before I split with my ex-husband I became very poorly indeed with health anxiety and now it is starting to creep back up on me big time. My main worries now have now shifted from things like cancer to STD's/HIV etc. Dr Google has as usual really not helped and I keep looking for symptoms and convinced I have them.
I am so scared I am going back downhill. Please help.