Why, time and time again do I let bullies get the better of me. Yes, I know I have low self esteem and yes, admittedly, I am not very good at conflict. How do I break this cycle of people setting me up to fail, spreading rumours and not allowing me opportunities to grow? How can I complain to the boss, when they have close relationship with the bully? I work hard, but get treated differently. Other people have anxiety issues and it is dealt with sensitively, with me they make fun of me triggering the anxiety. When I stand up for my self, I am the bully. Everyone talks about how well they did their job, and poorly I did my job.