hi. spent wk end with my ex and was ok most of the time. still had weepy and overwhelmed times, we were invited to his daughters house warming. it went ok tho.
I want to go back, but he is such a horder and house needs a good clean. his hording got me down in the past, every cupboard and draw is full of stuff he will probably never use.
any help on how I can deal with this. we never seam to talk about important matters unless I bring them up.
he mentions small things I can change and talks as tho I am back there full time. feeling anxious and confused. where do I go from here!
am never sure how to make my post - who exactly is everyone - is it safer to only post to this community?
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Hi & Welcome
Anxiety support is for anyone with anxiety or anxiety related problems , we don't always have all the answers but we are quite good at listening
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I can see where your dilemma may be , it must be very difficult to be with someone with a hoarding problem
I know you say he doesn't talk about serious issues unless you bring them up but I do think most men can be like that
Does he admit he has a problem , is he willing to get help or let you support him ?
I think you need to bring this issue up with him & see how much he is willing to change
Then write a list maybe , one side the benefits of been with him again & on the other list the downfalls of been with him again , usually when you look at what you have written one will outweigh the other & then I find that can be my answer
Hi and welcome oh my mother is a hoarder eeek she keeps all kinda of rubbish ...I once cleaned out her food cupboards in lets say 2000 and found tinned fruit and soups from 1989 ha ha ha I go round once in a while and empty old stuff out and always check best by dates ...newspapers is another ....as for your dilemma ....maybe speak to him and suggest a good clear out and if that's the only reason for not going back tell him? Hope that gave you a giggle about the food....by the way her freezer was just as bad yuck
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