Decision to be made...

[silver_snow]

So i have to make a decision... I'm signed off sick at the moment for severe anxiety... i have to decide...

1) To go back to a job i have been in for 4 months and i'm not completely comfortable in and worried sick about failing in and letting everyone down

2) or i try to look for a new job and that just fills me with dread

3) or the doctor said she can sign me off and i can possibly go on benefits.

Quite frankly i don't know what to do as every option fills me with fear as my anxiety is so severe at the moment everyday is a struggle to get through.

So how do i decided when every option seems bad. i have my mum telling me i shouldn't go back to a job i don't like very much and my dad and boyfriend thinking i should try and go back to my job just to have a sense of routine and normal in my life but there is something inside me that just says i can't do it and it's there all day every day and won't go away or let me rest or get any better.

I know no one can make this decision for me but i just don't know how to make it as nothing seems a better choice.

Feel like i'm in Limbo.....

[Hidden]

Hi

I can see how you will be feeling confused

I would get some paper

At the top of each sheet write a title naming each option

Then do two columns one the benefits if you take that option , one the negatives to that option & list them

After you have done it , lay all three sheets down & look at them & see which comes out on top with the benefits & go for that one

None may look perfect but one should look better than the others

Remember we have to make choices in life & it is hard , but if after we we find we have made the wrong one , we can always change our minds

Try the list thing it works for me

Good luck & let us no what you decide to do , making sure that its for the right reasons & whats best for you at the moment & no one else

Love

whywhy

xxx

[silver_snow in reply to Hidden]

Ok i will give that a try, it still seems like such a huge decision to make i'm hoping something will happen to steer me one way or another.

I see you are having a frustrating day, hope things look up for you, you offer really good advice on here don't let anyone put you off or tell you otherwise

[Hidden in reply to silver_snow]

I hope it works , I no when there is to much going round my mind I cant see sometimes what is straight in front of me , but having it there on paper to look at the answer can become much clearer

Thank you , I will try & not let anyone put me of

xxx

[Mysteryreader]

do you have someone who can help you impartially to write down the pros and cons of each options as doing it by yourself can be very scary and sometimes it is hard when you have anxiety to think straight. If you don't have someone. what are your gut feelings about each option? xx