Does other people help in the cause of aniexty???

[MissyK]

I have health aniexty but I am a natural worrier and will admit I also do have OCD . I am an only child and my parents were quite strict people when growing up always looking for the best and I feel this has left me with this thing that I always have to please them and live to their expectations for example the both dont drink alcohol so in their eyes I shouldn't but hey I don't have a wee drink sometimes and if they come to visit should a bottle of wine be in the fridge I have to hide it invade the would see. - this drives my hubbie mad ad he says I'm an adult. They always comment on my house my kids anything to moan about to be honest and my mother makes me feel like I should always be thanking her if she does anything for me or my kids. I am now starting to think all this doesn't help my problems and as I always say to my hubbie I would love to move far away from them - we live close - they are always judging . Not blaming others but ........ It doesn't help

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Hiya

Sorry your feeling anxious right now...

It may sound obvious but I think anything that bothers us can cause us anxiety...and I know other people can cause my anxieties very much..how we deal with it is very different for us all in respect of people/family and on the circumstances and relationships we have with them....someone may say to you have a good heart to heart and tell your parents how you feel, now for some that may work...for me I doubt it would have for many reasons....that may of course work for you...

I can only comment what I think and it may not necessarily be suitable to you and yours.

..it is your life and your home, of course we respect our parents , but I feel it has to be a mutual respect and you are not them and therefore shouldn't feel forced into living like them..or being judged if you don't...you are an individual with different likes and needs..

Because you have a glass of wine doesn't make you bad, so why hide that?? Now if you had a problem and they stepped in to try and guide you or help because they love you that's different...

Do I sound harsh?? Don't mean to be and I'm sure your parents are lovely...

I think your blog has touched a little nerve with me I have experienced a similar thing...

Hope my little rant helps, just wanted to say I understand....

With all good wishes to you

Sue xxxxx

[MissyK]

Yes Sue people of get involved when they shouldn't and pass judgement however caring and kind the can be, sometimes it jus feels like you can go no right at all . Personally for me I couldn't talk about it. It would ptob b more drama than its worth to be honest

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I hope you manage to reach some middle ground that makes you less anxious...

I wish you well

With all good wishes

Sue xxx