Overthinking

[beautifulthings]

Anybody else struggling with their own thoughts and overthinking things? Been in and out of feeling depressed lately. Mood swings, creating drama where there's none, I guess. I am aware but I don't know how to fight it. It's like a battle within.

[Starrlight]

yes!

[frailstateofmind44]

yep, you’re not alone

[Italianmomma]

Yes! Overthinking all the time.🥺

[Starrlight]

I keep overthinking with lies about myself and sometimes I was believing them.

[beautifulthings in reply to Starrlight]

I know what you mean. I've had those times before.

[trainspotting]

Hello,

Yes, I overthink everything. And people can probably glean this from my long posts.

My mind goes a mile a minute and it won't slow down.

I stayed up all night and only got two hours of sleep but today, I managed to clean my whole apartment from top to bottom, did laundry, and managed to watch 5 hours of TV. To top it off, I've posted on here a few times.

It was a productive day and I'm still not tired. I think this is referred to as mania.

Mood swings, definitely!

I love it though, to feel this alive and excited for the future. Even though the lows are terrifying. I don't care. It's been like this my whole adult life. And today's a good day in my books. So, as long as the sun shines on my soul, who cares about how I will feel tomorrow. I live in the moment and embrace both the good and bad. Even though I loathe when I am feeling really really low and want to end it all. That's the craptastic part of having this disorder. But, since I don't have too many good days, I hold on to days like these.

As far as drama is concerned, I would probably get into arguments if I felt I was being limited in some way. Because I live alone, it isn't so bad.

[Spud-u-Like1982]

Very much with you on that. I hate overthinking and overanalyzing everything - going over conversations I've had each day time and again, trying to read into things that possibly aren't there. I get hit with it from all sides - anxiety, depression, OCD, ADHD and possible autism. So, yeah, I can definitely relate. My Mum and I are very similar and my Dad is like a dog with a bone if something gets into his mind, so they're the reason I'm screwed with that too. Do you find your mind racing alot and you can't quieten your thoughts?I keep trying to learn meditation, but the noise in my head is constant.

[beautifulthings in reply to Spud-u-Like1982]

Yes, sometimes. I live in Germany for almost 10 years now but the language challenge alone makes me think about every single important conversation I have - did I say it right? Should I have done it differently? Etc. And lately overthinking about my husband's new friendship with a female colleague. It goes too far and I'm not sure if there's something wrong with me. Never been diagnosed with anything.

[Spud-u-Like1982 in reply to beautifulthings]

I never thought about that with regards to a different language. That would bring a whole new level to things.As an outsider looking in and with lifelong experience of overthinking to the point it becomes unbearable, it might be worth investigating if the anxiety and depression hasn't morphed into something else. For myself, I was only diagnosed with lifelong inattentive ADHD last year, but the OCD came about from the suicidal depression that overcame me in the few years following my best friends death when we were 11. I didn't think I could have autism because I'm overly empathetic, but that can also be a trait. Definitely worth investigating and it might help put your mind at ease.

[beautifulthings in reply to Spud-u-Like1982]

I have always been curious about investigating. But even with talking about the deepest most honest thoughts I have with other people is something I struggle with. I tend to just share very little and as shallow as possible. I'm usually very open and good at advising, but very private and secretive when it comes to my own issues. So always hesitated seeing someone to investigate. 🙍🏽‍♀️

[marsbarr]

Yes I over think. Probably think your thoughts too; lol

[-Charlie]

Oh for sure. I overthink and my mind works very fast at the same time. That’s why journaling is so difficult for me. I have 10 different thoughts pass through my mind before I can even write 1 down. I’ve always been a fast thinker and an overthinker so I just accept it. As long as I stay busy learning new things it’s not so bad.

[CalicoKi]

I over think and overanalyze everything.From what to eat for a meal to the meaning of life.

[Blacksunflower77]

Yes I overthink as well to the point where I am negatively thinking bad things about myself and others and it's very bothersome. Therapy is a struggle because I don't even want to do that at times. So life gets challenging but there's soo many positive things to practice now days that can help you through it. Journaling, music, art, guided imagery, tapping Etc...

[beautifulthings in reply to Blacksunflower77]

Exactly. You just can't help get to the negative parts about it. I'd very much like to try therapy but not sure if I'd be brave enough to even open up my thoughts to someone I don't know that's why I resort to journaling, writing has been helpful ever since. Music too.

[jjpeabody]

Hi beautiful things, it sounds like your situation is still manageable without drugs/meds etc. Journaling is great and a daily to-do list as well. You mention your husband's female colleague and you ask if something is wrong with you. If there are other signs of a strained relationship like arguing, not wanting to discuss things etc maybe a marriage counselor would be helpful. Do you work or can you take a part-time job you like which would get you out of house and take you're mind off worrying etc and give your mind and body a break. Regardless, you want to maintain your personal integrity, meaning not to think it's all your fault and something is wrong with you. Journal, exercise, good diet and weight, positive goals and actions, accept what you cannot change and change what you can is a good start, plus your friends here. Sure, going to therapy feels threatening for everyone at first, but at this point in your life the timing may be what's best. Good luck and keep us posted if you will.

[beautifulthings in reply to jjpeabody]

Hi, thanks for your sharing your thoughts. My marriage isn't perfect, neither is my husband nor myself. But between the two of us he's the one who can discuss better and I'm the one getting emotional fast. Sometimes I need time to breathe and think things through before I can properly discuss without being too emotional on everything. The female colleague is simply just a female colleague, but as that friendship was budding I was feeling a little neglected and because I'm an overthinker it makes everything worse. That's why I feel like I'm a little less confident (low self-esteem) because otherwise why would I be jealous and making such a fuss? I have a part time job and mostly busy with my son, but I guess you're right, I guess I need to get busy with something else that is for myself (new hobby etc) so I don't worry about unnecessary drama. I just wish it was that easy to accept/change things or shut off my overthinking mind. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[jjpeabody]

It sounds like you're doing pretty well as you are except maybe your comment "Been in and out of feeling depressed lately". It almost sounds like this is something new "lately". I don't know much about hormonal changes etc so assume that's not a problem. If it persists I would try the therapy route first before medications. No need to reply, you sound very nice and I wish you the best.