Giving Up ?

[Cury]

I no longer have friends and though I try to reach out to people it just doesn't go anywhere. I have tried the approach of being positive and happy with people, I have tried being up front and real but nothing comes from any of it. I am a caring and feeling person with compassion and understanding though I can't seem to find friends. I have stopped putting in any effort to make friends so have I given up?

[Mormormor]

I know your feeling. My friends are burned out from my situation. I isolate. Someone suggested online support.

[Cury in reply to Mormormor]

I find myself wanting to isolate more than I do now which I know won't solve anything.

[Mormormor in reply to Cury]

That's my life. I leave my apartment to take out garbage. I'm trying to have daily goals for self care, but the loneliness really makes me not care about me. I've yelled help.

[Cury in reply to Mormormor]

Every morning I think about what I need to do for self care, what I should do but then I think " what does it matter anymore, no one really cares " That's my latest struggle and much of it stems from the loneliness. I think perhaps I have yelled " Help " by sharing with someone how I feel yet nothing came of it. I didn't put them on the spot we were just talking about how people seem to be in this bubble of " Don't bother me I don't care , it's not my problem" and although they agreed with how people need to be more compassionate and caring for others they have not shown any friendliness or concern. I'm not asking for help just maybe some kind words of encouragement.

[Mormormor in reply to Cury]

I went through DBT 20 years ago. I still use the distraction and mindfulness, but sometimes I need someone to volley the ball back. 💜

[Nothing_but_books in reply to Cury]

"I'm not asking for help just maybe some kind words of encouragement."

And good luck with that. 😬

[LazyXrayEyes2255]

Lots of support and friends you can make here on healthunlocked

[b1b1b1]

Have you tried therapy? Friends (unless they are very good friends) are not generally available for any kind of support. It also gets harder to make new friends as an adult.

[Lifesearching]

I’ve been struggling with the same in relationships of all kinds, I’ve never known how hard it is to find ppl who reciprocate the same level of care and respect or at least common courtesy to respond to you (unless it’s a guy I’m completely not wanting to lead on or entertain I just don’t reply)💙I’m here to listen if you ever need. I struggle with finding genuine ppl. The connections I have now are usually genuine and kind if others are around, but have a different personality if it’s me and them one on one…or just people being fake, but wondering if those close to me would even believe me if I told them others were being fake towards me