Hello,
I’ve dealt with anxiety and depression most of my life. I’ve had many struggles/changes within the past 5 years. Something I’ve noticed is I find it hard to get excited about things now. I just focus on getting through the day. Not sure if this comes with middle age or not. I just hope it doesn’t last.
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Sorry you are having a rough time. I understand how you feel.
I don't know if it's necessarily middle aged, I feel it's anxiety. Cause for me I noticed I don't get excited about stuff as I used to. But that's because I feel anxiety is going to pop up and be like "Told ya so."
So I don't get excited because I figured it isn't going to last long anyways.
Been in therapy. Trying to rewire my brain. Not be so focused on negatives. Which is very very easy for me to do and go down a rabbit hole with.
Learning to be kinder to myself. Another thing that comes with difficulty for me. However I do see some results. I find coming here and sharing a positive thing or 2. Or asking for support when I needed it has helped me.
Hopefully it can be the same for you.
Yes, negative thoughts have always been a problem for me. I’m sure that’s has something to do with it. Why get excited everything will just change or fall apart? Talking about it help put things in perspective. Thank you!
Yes, negative thoughts are definitely not easy. Especially when that lying anxiety comes into play. She is so mean 😂 anxiety will have you believe in all kinds of things about yourself and about the situation. And it kind of yeah steals your sunshine.
And who knew it would be such hard work to stop doing that? I mean I'm seeing a therapist now and yeah it's not easy. It's so hard to speak to myself. Kindly and remind myself that it's not always going to rain. And to find the glimmer a gloomy day.
I have a hard time getting excited or happy about anything also. I’m approaching my mid 40’s. Been depressed longer than I’ve probably realized. There’s definitely good things in my life I should be happy about but the feeling just isn’t there. I considered myself very happy and optimistic in my younger days. Now I’m just existing. Doing my best to check off boxes for other people and fulfill their needs. Neglecting my own. I don’t believe this is an age thing. We all go through seasons in our lives. I also know plenty of people my age that are totally happy and content. My best advice is don’t stop looking for that thing , whatever it is, that gives you that spark that makes you feel alive again. It may not happen as often as we’d like but it’s so worth it when it does happen.
Thank you for your honesty, makes me feel like it’s not just me! I agree, I have to look for the spark!!
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