I just want to be done…..

[kanzler1987]

I have been in a useless relationship for 15yrs and the relationship keeps getting worse. We live off of pennies, we do not go anywhere, we live in a cold state, so I can’t go anywhere and I am lonely 24/7. And I just want to be done. I want a relationship that is full of life and honestly and conversation when conversation get tough. I want to be wanted and for someone to just say omg I wanted you to be here. I am so sick and tired of being a nobody. I just want to be happy. Is that so hard. I guess. Because I still don’t know if I can be happy myself alone …….. and if I can’t be happy alone as myself where else can I be happy……..ugh life is a real struggle bus especially if you were abused both mentally and physically and you are still trying to process as a person. Ugh. I just can’t…….

[LazyXrayEyes2255]

Look after yourself, I say and you should be priority and your mental health also. When you feel good about your life, it can have profound impact on your mood and mental health. You will be able to do more and enjoy more. Do whatever it takes you to make your dreams come true. You should know yourself best and what you really can cope with. Do it for yourself, make your mind up and choose your mental health.

[Lazy_dog_lover]

I understand that this is a really hard place to be right now. You are partially right that being comfortable with yourself is paramount. I don't know all of your situation, but if you are that sad in your relationship you have three options: stay, as-is, change what you have, seek something different.

You have to prioritize your well-being. If you do nothing different then nothing will change.

I first read this from First Lady, Eleanor Roosevelt. No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.

You have value for who you are, right now. The trick is convincing yourself. I have a friend who can help you if you decide to put yourself first or break off that relationship.

Best wishes.

[kanzler1987 in reply to Lazy_dog_lover]

Who is this friend?

[tiggra]

Start mentally preparing yourself to leave. Do you have someone you could stay with? There are shelters that would help. You'll never have peace if you stay. I went through that with a person who started using drugs. One day I finally had enough and I went down to the court and got a restraining order against him and he moved out. Point is you'll know when you've had enough. Hang in there you have support here.

[kanzler1987 in reply to tiggra]

Thank you