Dieting & Frustrations

[PenguinQueen44]

I decided to do intermittent fasting as my diet....I fast for 16 hours and can eat for 8 hours. In the 16 hours you can drink water only. I have done this for a couple days and I am not 100% certain that this is the diet for me.

I have had a hiatus week for my diet, but I will see how much weight I have lost on Sunday. If I have lost any weight...I will have to think about what diet I want to continue with.

At work I am leaving sore because of a new task that I have to do. Working through the pain is something that I have done alot in my life due to ankle injuries, back injuries, and more. I am stubborn to do the best that I can in my work, but I am so done with aches and pain.

I am having anxiety attacks and I am having bouts of frustration that I am having trouble working through. I hate having a bad attitude, but I am having a hard time. Many things that I could brush off are now making me so irritated.

My Mom's birthday is on the January 18th. She died a few years back and I still am having a hard time at this time of year. I want to ignore this day, but my sister wants to celebrate her birthday....I just want to stay in bed and eat Taco Bell.

I am trying to stick to my diet, but when my anxiety is bad/depression...I just want to go eat fast food and soda.

I am trying to be healthy and I am having the worst time pushing through my mental health issues.

[Scarletsunrise]

So I have some controversial advice. This was advice that was given to me by a therapist when I was doing really horribly with my mental health, about to lose my job, living with people who hated me etc. Dieting isn't for you right now.

She said to me that if a chocolate bar a day was getting me through each day then a chocolate bar a day was necessary. My body didn't need to be under more stress and I didn't need more reasons to be hard on myself and that wouldn't help me with my weight either. She reminded me that my mental health was more important than my waist size and when I was on more even footing I could focus on losing any weight I'd gained. That I wouldn't worry about it with any other health issue I was dealing with.

Obviously it very much depends on your situation but if you want to lose the weight to be fitter and improve your health generally your better off improving your mental health than focusing on your weight right now.

I am much fatter now than I was 5-6 years ago. But my mental health is much better and dieting just isn't the drama it was and I can focus on it better. It's still hard but it's not pushing me over the edge! I don't know if intermittent fasting is not for you or not for you right now but be kimdnto yourself you are going through a lot you don't need to make it harder.

The little things you can do are Important like have some carrots with your fries, have zero cal soda move when you can make it ad easy as possible.

Regarding your mums birthday, hear me out but you should go. Family/friends is important in grief and depression and anxiety make us want to never see anyone again. Give yourself permission to leave after an hour, (15mins, 30mins, 20mins) or choose a time period in advance to stick it out. Showing your face will mean a lot to your sister, and it might end up being good for you or something you enjoy. Then you can get your taco bell on the way home to bed safe in the knowledge that if nothing else you have supported your sister, pat yourself on the back and wallow for the rest of the day.

I hope this helps

[Slimfit786]

I'm so sorry for everything you are going through. May you find the strength to carry on with life. I think of losing weight as a healthy weight journey a lifestyle. I'm trying to incorporate vegetables into my meals. Healthy plate where half of the plate is vegetables and quarter is protein and the other half is carbs. I also think if I can go through each day on the 80% 20% ratio it's a win for me. Meaning if I can eat healthy food 80% of the time. Hugs . Look after yourself🤗