Hi, I am a man in my late 20s. I have been in a relationship for a year. I met a a woman, we got really well, but things turned a bit south, as I was struggling with parents and cultural differences. Not ever really ever being in this place where I was so serious about someone and my feelings being so strong. My parents were not so keen and I ended it, cos I felt things have not been plain sailing after 7 months, theres some issues here and it didn't feel with it for me. When I ended it, I never expected extreme emotional response, and she came chasing after me to see me and try to fix it. I was taken aback. I became even more self conflicted and was struggling . I kept ending, and the reaction was so emotionally extreme. Happened again in a cycle for several months.
But I was in love and couldn't leave. I was confused about my feelings, my thoughts.
There was a 2 week gap where I thought it was over and moving on. Then she messaged me. Angry and upset. Then it restarted again. Eventually, I got to a point where I felt I was ready and I decided I want to get married. But now I'm just stuck in my head again...
I love her. But. There's been so much turbulence, resentment built-up, disrespect for me, I have not been the driver of the relationship or pushed anything. I feel lost. She wants me to confirm.a date for an engagement. I said I will tomorrow.
I feel lost, anxious, in love, don't want to lose her, lose what we did share. Etc. I do t want to feel like I'm being pushed -cos that's how I've been throughout this whole relationship, I've not bene proactive.
I need help. I feel bad if I say now. No, I can't do this. Also, I feel bad, like I lose her, and see her sith someoneelse and not be able to get thr good we had back in a future .relationships...
I'm just lost, anxious...asking is she truly right for me? What are my feelings? Fear...etc. I think she has ADHD...seeing her extreme anger. I see here extreme love, she's beautiful...
Hope anyone can help.