Struggling with creating structure and routine

[Casivalentina]

Hello! Does anyone else struggle with creating/sticking to routines and creating structure when they aren't working. I have spent more days in bed binge watching Netflix than I care to admit. It seems like when I work it's automatic structure, when I'm off, I struggle. Been on medical leave for three months and am embarrassed by the number of "lost days" where I've accomplished absolutely nothing. I set my alarm, I reset it several times. I just struggle with motivation and have set the bar so low for so long I don't remember what it's like to have structure and a routine during down time..I know I used to. I'm almost 63, and sometimes just wish someone could swoop in and rescue me from myself. I live alone and I don't think that helps as I don't feel accountable to anyone. I was a single parent and had my own private practice for years...granted I struggled profoundly during that time, yet somehow I managed, at least some of the time to follow through with routines. I'm not sure what my deal is. Treatment resistant depression seems to be winning the battle. It's as though I've given up on the fight. Really wanting and need ing to do things differently. Finally got back into therapy. Help!!! Thank you! Sorry to be such a Debbie Downer!!!

[Dolphin14]

Casivalentina

I'm sorry you are struggling with this. Structure is so important and it's good you recognize this because you can fix it.

You are the only one that can " swoop in and rescue you" You can create your own structure within your home.

I would say first thing is shut that TV off and get out of bed. Make a list of things to accomplish daily with a time frame, that is structure.

It's not easy and hopefully your therapist will have more ideas for you.

If you give up hope you give up the chance of making progress.

Wishing you the best

🐬

[Casivalentina in reply to Dolphin14]

Thank you for your response, Dolphin14. Your advice is practical and well stated. And, you're absolutely right in that I am the only one who can swoop in and rescue me! Yes!!!!

[Epohmomma]

I use alarms. I set multiple for each goal I have line going to a support group or going to class. I really find this to help me.

[Casivalentina in reply to Epohmomma]

Epohmomma, thank you for your your reply. Setting alarms is a great idea!! Thank you!

[Gramas]

Sorry to hear you are going through a rough time. I often struggle with accomplishing anything, I just don’t have the energy or motivation. Sometimes though I just force myself and once I’m involved with whatever it is, I get things done. I too live alone and don’t have anyone to account to so a lot never gets done. Reach out any time for motivation. If I have any I’ll be sure to send some!

[Casivalentina in reply to Gramas]

Gramas, thank you so much for your response. It helps knowing I'm not alone in this struggle!!!! Take care!!

[Gramas]

You certainly aren't alone in this struggle. There are many of us going through the same thing and hopefully we can all help each other.

[Hidden]

Just do minimum or little by little and momentum will build up. Once we start we usually get through the rest but it's just starting. Post it notes or reminders to accomplish things we want to do, helps or to do lists that just has one or two items only best way to start. Please only do what needs to be really done

[Casivalentina in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for your response, Vonus. I appreciate your suggestions and your support!!!!

[RS1974]

Good to know I'm not alone in this. I can spend hours on my tablet and phone. I also struggle with this.

[Casivalentina in reply to RS1974]

Thanks for your reply! Sounds like we are experiencing some similar challenges. I'm wishing you the very best dear one!!!

[RS1974 in reply to Casivalentina]

Yes we are. Thank you sweetie 🥰