Family members being stressful

[melancholichills]

Does anyone else just like...get so anxious and stressed over certain family members? the close mindedness, the toxic behaviour, just everything. I am so drained whenever they come over. They always come whenever it's my day offs too. I just want them to leave. I want my peace.

[Hidden]

Sending a hug.

Toxic relatives are the worst. Busy body, nosey, controlling.

They have issues driving that toxic behavior but we usually label it as narcissistic.

Pooh hug

[melancholichills in reply to Hidden]

Thank you:)) hugs back 🤍

[Vonus5591]

yes, with me I live with my parents and sometimes everything they say is ***** and really hard to cope with on any day

[melancholichills in reply to Vonus5591]

i hope you get your peace too someday 🙏

[Vonus5591 in reply to melancholichills]

Thank you I just go to my room and speak to you guys

Really soothes me/calms me down

[CanYouHearMe in reply to Vonus5591]

This is a great place. Glad I found it.

[Hidden in reply to Vonus5591]

Also love with mine, and they says the most messed up s*** to me alot. I have to just bite my tongue bc I have nowhere to go...

[Vonus5591 in reply to Hidden]

Sorry it’s so bad and you can’t walk away xx

[Hidden in reply to Vonus5591]

Thank you. It really does suck I have no one

[Littlecook]

Hello ,yes I fully understand what you are saying I have 2 sons both special needs and the youngest his given me so much grief and stress ,I can't cope with it anymore, I have my own health issues I know I can't have them christmas it will drive me bonkers but I don't want them to be by them selfs:(😪 the oldest tells so many lies lots have happened since I lost my first wife , my wife tells me to think of my self but it's difficult I know she is right but I don't know what to do for the best so everyone is happy. Have a good Christmas my friend.

[CanYouHearMe in reply to Littlecook]

Sending you love. Sounds like you have a very stressful situation!

[melancholichills in reply to Littlecook]

Sending hugs. Stay strong and have a good christmas as well, my friend!

[CanYouHearMe]

yes yes yes!!! So much yes. I have niece that is so toxic. Everyone in my family just turns the other way because confronting her is so stressful. She doesn’t work, isn’t educated, doesn’t even have a driver license. Has kids but does t care for them, when she does it is not good. Yet all of her needs are met due to other people taking care of things. It angers me so much. I try saying you are not helping, you are making things worse. She will find a way to have her basic needs met if she was forced to. She is 30 by the way!

Fortunately I am only around for holidays and special occasions. Yet this makes me sad. I wish things were better and I enjoyed being around more and didn’t take my anxiety to the max. For me limiting my time with them helps my mental health. Doesn’t mean it is easy.

[melancholichills in reply to CanYouHearMe]

Your niece is like my aunt! I understand the stress oh my god.

[CanYouHearMe in reply to melancholichills]

It is so challenging. Thanks for sharing your post though. Always helps me when someone really gets it. Sounds like you do!

[catsrock]

Yes! I totally get this. Do whatever you can to detach from them so you can have peace.

[Chop123]

Yes I do love ,, I backed away from them all ,, Their all toxic and gas lighters to , I only have anything to do with my kids and grandkids now ,, All rest of my family always seem to deppress me more and make me feel so utterly worthless ,, Xx

[boojiboo]

Have you have ever thought of finding your own residence?