Dreading the holidays

[Dancelady63]

I am so sad that I can’t feel joy with the upcoming holidays. I feel like a failure in so many ways and the main reason is looking back at my life is that I haven’t accomplished much and no strength left to doing anything. Most of my days are spent at the house and just marking time. Thank the lord for my bf, otherwise everything would go down the drain.

[WorryTooMuh]

All I can right now is that I know exactly how you feel. I usually love Halloween, this year I couldn't have cared less. Life feels direction less and devoid of joy.

[Dancelady63 in reply to WorryTooMuh]

Hopefully we both can start enjoying upcoming events again. Not easy when you are stuck in the same mind set and not an easy way to change things.

[casablancalover14]

I think the holidays are really hard for a lot of people. When you throw in depression and anxiety, that just doubles our pain. I try to find something positive about each day, no matter how small the victory is. Please make yourself be your first priority, cause you are someone special too.😍😍😍😍

[Phoenix1992]

I don't know if it is an age thing Dancelady63, but I feel the same looking back on my life with regrets. I am trying to change that inner dialogue with, what do I want to happen in my life in the near/immediate future. Therapy is helping me move in the right direction. Slow, baby steps and for the first time getting the right help for my mental health and putting my needs before everything. Took me a while to get into that mindset, but as my GP said, 'If not now, then when?' I am 62 🙂

[gettingsomewhere in reply to Phoenix1992]

Hi Phoenix how are you?

I love that "If not now then when?" Which I read many years ago and use to motivate myself if I can.

Also "If not me then who?" Which also spurns me on.

No matter what one has life can be full of regrets.

I'm glad you are trying to change that inner dialogue.

[Phoenix1992 in reply to gettingsomewhere]

Hi gettingsomewhere,

I agree, it is a great motivator, especially as we age!

[gettingsomewhere]

Hi Dancelady

I have regrets also but with the help of therapy beginning to understand why I made certain decisions when I did and how my life has panned out the way it has. Understanding and accepting is the way forward for me. Wishing you peace.

[Rufus07]

I feel the same way as far as the holidays are concerned. My issue is my overwhelming anxiety with the work that is needed, even though I do get some help. My other issue is all the people being loud and invading my safe place. My days are spent in the house marking time also. But that’s my choice. I feel safe here. I only go out to the grocery and doctor appointments. I thank God too that I have an understanding bf.