My misery

[Girltoto]

I am constantly overwhelmed by everything around me. I know am not okay but I pretend to be because I have young kids to take care of. Am afraid of talking to my family about how I feel because they'll think am weak since mental health is not a priority in these parts of the world. Coupled with my financial struggles since I had do not have a job and solely depends on my husband, I feel like he disregards me and my feelings because I've become a burden to him. Am seriously hopeless and feel like am losing my mind. Please help

[hypercat54]

Hi sorry to hear. Don't forget he is only free to work because you don't and take care of his children instead. In that sense its joint money - not just his.

Is it possible you can work too as it would clearly benefit you to be able to be you and not just a wife or mother ie defined by others.

Do you have family who could help?

[Girltoto in reply to hypercat54]

I wish he could understand that the money is ours not his,I have to seriously borrow whenever I need something and he would never give it to me upfront, he'd first give me an earful of how he doesn't have the money or say he'll see about it tomorrow even when he does have the money. Am trying to get a job but I haven't successful. I hope I get one soon coz I just feel like giving up sometimes. I have family but am afraid of talking to them about it coz they're all busy with their lives and I don't want to be burden to them too

[hypercat54 in reply to Girltoto]

Oh dear not good. He sounds like a grade 1 twat.

You know what I would do? Go and visit your family/friend for a few hours and leave him in charge.

If that doesn't help how about staying with your family for a few days because you need a rest. Or something along those lines? Let him be the one to take care of his children for a change and see how he likes it.

[Rufus07]

I know exactly how you feel. Not that it’s a good thing to have to do, but at least you have the ability to pretend. I have never been able to do that. You get what you get with me. Can’t put on a happy face if I don’t feel it. I too feel like a burden to my partner and my friends and family. It’s like my life is a broken record. Always the same feelings, worries and complaints. I feel hopeless, isolate and cry all the time. I wish I had some sound advice, but I don’t. I just wanted you to know that you are not alone. Take care

[Girltoto in reply to Rufus07]

Thanks, knowing am not alone gives me hope. At least I know that it's not all in my head. Sometimes I look in the mirror and I don't recognise the person staring with soulless eyes back at me. I fear that maybe am just weak and can't handle the pressure of life

[boojiboo]

Does your local area have a workforce solutions that can help you out? Call your local 211 to get resources such as therapy.

[Girltoto]

My local area doesn't have such services,if they are then they don't work coz I've never heard of any. Thanks though