control freak

[kanzler1987]

good morning all,

It has been a while since I have posted due to the soul fact that I have found another outlet to post things, I also felt this site was very judging, but maybe I have grown up a bit. lol. Anyways so to get to my title and to explain more, here I go,

I have been in a relationship for 15 plus years and it has good days bad days and medium days. And the bad days are to the point of I just want to scream and scream and scream and scream, but I know yelling is never the answer to anything in any relationship.

Anyways……our sad sad sad car that we have had since 2013-2015 somewhere in those years, has now gotten to the point of no return. The state I live in gets a real winter ( snow ice negative weather) I am a human and so is the rest of my family. So eating blah blah blah, now we are in a generation where deliveries are a thing than they were. Which isn’t an issue……but junk food is no good……meals are good……and I can food shop online and get it delivered as well……..

but my point behind my post is this……..if there was any problems: examples: broken pipe in your kitchen sink, bathroom sink, water leaking in your basement, bees attacking your house, your car, etc etc, and you noticed these things were effecting your home and how to get around in life……

Wouldn’t you try to fix it before it gotten to the point of no return? Or would you just wait until all the damage can be done, or more damage is done, and than best yourself up about it?

I know my partner of 15 plus year has been silencing yelling at himself since yesterday about the fact that he should have gotten the car in ASAP. But it is to late now, car is gone, and now he is going to be super depressed, and he has bipolar so he hits rock bottom harder than me……..

also that is another thing how do two people who struggle with mental health help each other, without judgement, but more comfort…..

anyways all comments questions or concern may be left. I may take them personal or I may just ignore them. As in this website we struggle……

Well my rant is over……

[blackcat64013]

Hi Kanzler1987,Welcome back to your forum.

I should imagine your relationship has a unique set of characteristics & challenges which I know little about.

I am single so only have to attempt to manage myself.

If the two of you can take care of yourselves, you can help each other when a curve ball arrives.

All the best black 🐈‍⬛

[kanzler1987 in reply to blackcat64013]

Yep, the both of us are learning to take care of ourselves. I feel like I am learning a little more everyday as he is still spinning in another generation…….so. I do my best to listen to him, but so many parts of me just want to be like……….why? Why why why why…………

But thank you black cat for welcoming me back. I do appreciate it.

[Vonus5591]

I would love this myself meditation room! A room to just be at peace and calm down

[fauxartist]

What's the name of the other site?....

[kanzler1987 in reply to fauxartist]

Oh I do video blogs on YouTube. I just vent on there. That is it. I sometimes use HeyPeers but nothing super awesome.

[casablancalover14]

Oh my gosh, you have gone through a lot. That would be hard to live with someone who has mental issues also, but you just have to try and make the best of it. I hope you guys can get through this, I'm sure you love each other. I'm hear to listen any time.😍

[kanzler1987 in reply to casablancalover14]

Thank you so much. Yes this isn’t the first time we haven’t had a car. It seems like all the cars we have own have crap on us. But if we took care of things better like cars and our mental health things would be okay but still a struggle. As I am learning as the older I get life is going to be a struggle no matter what.

[casablancalover14]

Every day it seems like something wants to drag you down again. I try to remember that I can only control myself, and not others, or situations. It seems to come easier for other people, but then I think I'm blessed with all the other things I have in my life. Try to have a good day, and hopefully things will pick up soon.😍

[kanzler1987 in reply to casablancalover14]

Thank you so very much. I am trying my hardest to stay on the positive side. And I appreciate your amazing and beautiful comments. It means the world to me.

[carlover56caddy]

Hi kanzler 1987,

I know what is like to lose a car.

For me it is extremely sad.

How do you know your car is "gone"?

Maybe it is not as far-gone as it appears.

Best Wishes

.

[kanzler1987]

car is working again…….