Tips for not spinning into remorse

[Here4Now]

I'm new here. Been dealing with depression and anxiety off and on for decades and always struggle with remorse and difficulty using any coping skills or grounding techniques to get through exceptionally rough patches. These episodes can last for weeks where I am nearly incapacitated with remorse for a "mistake". For example, I just passed up the opportunity to get a used car, the nearly exact model and condition I wanted, locally from a good dealership and now I see all the ways it would have made my life better and am "suffering" remorse. I will relive the decision over and over until I "find" a solution or hopefully move on.

My question to the group is what techniques have you tried successfully to either short circuit or better, when you are in the middle of an anxiety/depressive/remorseful attack? I've tried grounding and breathing... It's hard to force myself to go outside or do anything around the house (it's a mess and I am so disorganized that IT makes the situation worse). What do you do when you are deep in the middle of almost or actually crying and "freaking out" to help calm yourself? How do you step down and make it stick and turn off the replay reel in your mind so you can be productive or at least not feel you are losing days?

Thanks so much.

[Pastafox]

Hi Here4Now remorse is hard to deal with its personal too us all what works for you might not work for me We my think alike it doesn't mean we feel the same

No amount of grief will change your past

No amount of Anxiety will change your future

Believe in yourself

the sun my fade b4 ur eyes give it time and it will fill your shoulders with its gentle glow

Stay safe...

[Here4Now in reply to Pastafox]

Thanks. I know that grief, remorse and being anxious cannot change outcomes or reverse the past. Sadly knowing doesn't change the dialog in my brain. The question is more from the goal of learning what do others "tell" themselves to help accept that is true. The problem I have with this disease is my rational mind gets swamped with negative and destructive emotions and my irrational mind doubles down on wishing the past to change. I was looking to hear alternative techniques specifically because we are all different. My hope is that seeing solutions I have not stumbled upon and built from different perspectives will provide additional insights or additional tools to employ.

For sure, the kind words help emotionally as it shows there is compassion and understanding.

[Alpakka123 in reply to Here4Now]

Hi there. I hear you. It's awful, isn't it? It creates SO much suffering in us. Have you tried tapping?

[Here4Now in reply to Alpakka123]

Hi. What is tapping?

[Alpakka123 in reply to Here4Now]

healthline.com/health/eft-t...

This website talks about it