How to get over rejection

[EricJones]

I was talking with a girl last night for four hours straight and everything was going well. Out of no where she says she had a blast and that our conversation went well, but that she wasn't the right woman for me. She never gave me an explanation why. How do I not let this rejection get to me and ruin my day?

[roses4all]

So, I have a lot of anxiety and depression. I stay away from people whose lives trigger me. It has nothing to do with them. Maybe it is not rejection as much as self-preservation... or something that you can't even think of.

I suppose you could ask. I wouldn't. If she says it wouldn't work. It wouldn't.

[CL3V3R-G1RL]

First thing you have to do is accept that not everyone who you may talk to is going to like you like if you know what I mean. That's completely okay. They're people who you may talk to and they are great conversationalists but not really someone you would date.

She sounds like she's one of those folks. Great to chat with but not someone who you would date.

Just accept her word that she doesn't feel she's what you maybe looking for. And hey she said she had a nice time talking to you. So that's a positive take away. And it shows you can talk to someone of the opposite sex. A lot of people feel like they can't talk to guys or ladies. And they have these obstacles. Whether it's crushing social anxiety or autism. You got to talk to someone for 4hrs so that's pretty good.

So keep hope alive and you'll find someone that fits what you are looking for.

[moxoni237 in reply to CL3V3R-G1RL]

Hi sorry to hear life takes us on different journeys just reflect and known that you did youre best and made a positive habit sometimes it can be overwhelming overload person centric balance energy

[EricJones in reply to CL3V3R-G1RL]

I appreciate it a lot, thanks.

[Pitalife]

Think of it,as ve glad it didn't go further w relaions,she cut you a deal..alt confused n I secure women n men out there..

[detour13]

Hello, I am sorry I am picking on you,, but this is suppose to be for people with anxiety and panic attacks with depression issues.. I don't think a women rejecting you is the same as the issues we are on here.. Now I have not read into your profile.. If your just venting and u do suffer then I apologize .. But if your living a good life and some girl rejected you , then you can e-mail dear Abbey!! Lol

[bethelbee in reply to detour13]

Think you should have read his profile and posts before commenting. You would better understand this post.

[worthytobeloved in reply to detour13]

I disagree. I thought this site was also for depression. If you've read Eric's posts and got to know him you will realise that he has these acute anxieties (which may seem silly to some of us). I am so grateful for the many people who take his posts seriously, and reply helpfully and compassionately.

[casablancalover14]

Sometimes people like to play games with others hearts, and it's just not right.

I have gone through this myself, and it is very hurtful. All I can say is that it is her loss, and one day you will find the right person for you. I am still waiting for mine, but then I also take time to love myself too. Drop me a line sometime if you need a shoulder to lean on.

[SayNOtoPanic]

Sorry to hear this EricJones. Try not to over analyze it, even though that’s not the easiest. And don’t take it as rejection. Sometimes it’s a blessing in disguise. It’s not you, but rather them. May the right one find you. Prayers up.

[worthytobeloved]

Eric - once again I'm so proud of you!!! To be brave enough to date and risk rejection is incredible. And - wow - you talked for four hours and it went well! Maybe she had reasons not to take it further - for example, maybe she felt she wasn't good enough for you, or she was scared of getting involved with anyone.However, it's sadly part of being a human being that we will face rejection. Silly girl - I think you're wonderful and I've grown very fond of you! 😍

[worthytobeloved]

Hi Eric. Funnily enough, I heard this woman being interviewed on a Christian radio station, who felt very much like you do. I identified so much with her that I've bought a book she wrote - it's called 'You are not everyone's cup of tea'! Her name is Eloho Efemuai. I haven't read it yet, but I'm hoping it might help people like us. By the way, you are definitely my cup of tea!🫖🍵