Are you like me?

[sad_watermelon]

Lately I have been overthinking night and day if I am the only one like this. If I am crazy. If I am capable of loving in a healthy way and being loved in the same way.

I wrote about my feelings in my last post "how to let go" where everything is detailed, but I will simplify it here.

I got too attached to my boyfriend and now that he's my ex, but also best friend, I can't let him go, even though sometimes it's better for my mental health to not communicate with him. He never has time to see me and I am moving to a new country in a few weeks, so it's important for me to spend some quality time together, as the last time we ended in a dispute. I don't want this to be the last memory together.

I feel like something's wrong with me, I always want to text him, to see him, I get upset when he can't, when he's rude with me, when he could see me, but preferred to not (happened a lot while we were together), when he makes me feel small and useless and stupid..... Why am I still holding so hard to him?

The only reason is because he is the only person who replays to my texts the same day, who makes a bit time for me and who hugs me (hugs really help me).

But I don't think I should be THAT attached to him.

Is the problem in me, or you guys are the same?

[blackcat64013]

When we are in the middle of a "situation", it can seem a lonely place and feel like we are going a little bit off the level.This nature's response to the stress we find ourselves in. Our brain needs a rest before a reset to be able to deal with the next thing.

It's the job of a qualified psychologist to help us to reset and move on over time. How long this will take is up to us. It could be 6 or 12 sessions.

The alternative is using self help books and reading about attachment theory.

I will say putting knowledge into practice is easier said than done without a guide 🐈‍⬛

[pamb67]

I do think it’s better you keep your distance from him now his your ex it doesn’t sound like it’s doing you any good