can anyone relate

[anonleo]

I keep seeing stuff about people dying and I cried my whole shower and on the drive home yesterday because I’m just so terrified I really just want to be able to raise my kids and live a long life with my boyfriend as a family but walking around knowing I could die any second or he could just is sending me I’m scared to sleep

[Godless]

Wish I could, but can’t relate. My entire adult life has been spent hoping something bad would happen to me. Unfortunately it hasn’t, but it does bum me out seeing the news of some tragedy that took the lives of people younger than me. Seeing people who want to live die, while my wasted life continues on; seems like a bad joke.

Sorry…point is, you can’t control the shit life may throw your way. If you let your fear of death become too powerful, you’re gonna miss out on the happy life you want to be around for.

[hypercat54 in reply to Godless]

Omg! 'Seeing people who want to live die, while my wasted life continues on; seems like a bad joke'.

That's exactly how I feel too when I hear of someone dying who is surrounded by love and have everything to live for. I would happily swap places with them.

[Agora1]

Hi anonleo, our lives can change on a dime. However, if we focus on the bad things

happening, we just exist and never get to really live. Enjoy your beautiful family,

embrace today and live in the moment. After all, this is all we really have. When we

allow worry to become part or all of our day, we miss the joys around us that we

can never get back.

Live each day to the fullest, breathe in life. Be grateful for each day given instead

of fearing it might be taken away.

None of us know when the time may come, but wouldn't it be better to leave this

world one day, knowing we made memories, we laughed, we loved and we lived xx

[CL3V3R-G1RL]

Something ice learned from my dog is to be present in the moment. Dogs live their lives always in the present. And they make the most of it. Probably because dogs know their time is short. For every year it's 7 to them. That's why they are so happy to see you when you come home from wherever. Even if it was for few hours away. To them that's like a month gone. So I just try to live my life as best as I can. Can't worry about something I have no control over. Enjoy your time with your family. When you get the chance to be with for a few extras minutes, hours, whatever, just be present in the moment. Enjoy the company they provide and their love.

I like the quote from my favorite anime cartoon Cowboy Bebop.

"Do not fear Death. Death is always at our side. When we show fear, it jumps at us faster than light. But, if we do not show fear, it cast it's eye upon us gently and then guides us into infinity..."

[hypercat54 in reply to CL3V3R-G1RL]

I agree. I saw a great sign in a pub

'Live life like a dog. If you can't eat it or hump it then p.... on it and walk away'.

So true.

[LiamMC]

When I was a little boy I seen dead bodies due to Irish wakes being a catholic. I was scared of death for many years. Now, I'm seeing death all over the world its devastating. Makes me deal with my pain, knowing myself lucky. I don't have much but my body and possessions left. Id treasure every single minute you have with your family. You obviously understand and feel strongly, you are so lucky and you appreciate life and it's best things. Congratulations have a wonderful day and sleep better tonight 💯🫂 And if it makes you feel any better I don't believe death is the end 🌀

[CLB1125]

after my dad died I feared letting my husband and kids out of my sight. It took me years to get over it. Worrying wastes time and energy. Just love your family and make sure they know it. Hug them tell them you love them every day. I never heard that as a child growing up nor did I ever get hugs from my parents. I didn’t truly know my mom loved me until after her death when she left it in a letter. I would have loved hearing it from her mouth.

[Alpakka123]

Yes, I can relate. My mom passed in 2021, my uncle is dying, and I'm part of a church congregation that has many elderly members who are terminally ill (and some not-so-elderly who are terminally ill as well). When we are surrounded by death and/or news of people dying, it is hard to not have it affect us. I read something somewhere that said our brains have a hard time separating what happens in our individual lives with what is happening in the lives of those around us.Please remember (and I will try to as well) that what physically happens in the lives of others is totally separate from what happens in ours.

[anonleo in reply to Alpakka123]

Thank you for replying it’s good to know I’m not alone.. i will definitely tell myself that whenever I start feeling overwhelmed with the thoughts. I’ve been hyper aware of every sensation in my body lately