New Relationship Stress

[PenguinQueen44]

Hey all,I have a boyfriend who has aspergers syndrome and I am so frustrated.

I have to teach him how to be in a relationship and be so patient. I love him, but my anxiety has reached a high level.

I am always stressed about how our relationship is.

He gave me an anxiety attack by not warning me he was bringing a friend to meet me at work. I had to force composure and met his friend for the first time. I told him that he needed to give me a heads up because he knows I have anxiety.

I had a full blown anxiety attack yesterday. I stupidly drove my roommate to her cousins house and I should not have driven with my anxiety attack so bad. My hands were shaking and my brain was in overdrive.

He got off work and just held me which helped so much. He got my mind off the anxiety and I was better.

I love him, but I am still getting used to sharing my life with someone and controlling my anxiety.

Worrying about him and everything else I have is awful. I should go back on my meds, but I am so scared that I will go down the rabbit whole and not find a med that works for my lifestyle.

I am don't know what to do.

[The_Butterfly]

Your situation sounds really hard. It also sounds like you are really doing a lot for other people. Things you did for others: drive your roommate to cousins house while not feeling good, teaching your boyfriend patiently how to be a good boyfriend, keeping your composure when he brought his friend unexpectedly. Man. That’s a lot.

[bethelbee]

It does sound like you are doing a lot for others and while that is nice don't forget to take care of yourself, too. Was there a reason you went off your meds? If you feel you should go back on them, perhaps it is time to do so. Speak to your doctor about it.

[Agora1]

Hi PenquinQueen44, medication can certainly help quiet down your anxiety while you

find other methods/tools to use. Giving yourself some "me time" each day is important

as well. Consult with your doctor who knows your health history as well as inform

him on your situation at home. My best to you xx

[Lin1944]

HI, I have been on antidepressants for years. They have stopped working so my GP in England gave me Betablockers.They have really helped so Google them and see what you think. You can take them when you are feeling anxious and not every day xxx