Very little peace in my life. After 85 years of life, conquering marriage to a narcissist, and raising 4 children,

[MollyMarie]

my 64year old daughter lives with me (for the past 5 years - since I rescued her from homelessness). At this point, I am miserable. She has become verbally challenging, talks out loud "all" the time, to no one except herself - LOUD. I cannot concentrate or accomplish anything without this going on. I find that I GRIT my teeth all the time. I am so stressed and anxious I feel I'm losing it.

[Javahead]

Does she need mental health services? Can you call for support? If you don't want to help her in that way, maybe you can get some support from your dr. Maybe they can help you in ways to help yourself survive through this. It sounds like she is not ok.

[MollyMarie in reply to Javahead]

Thankyyou Javehead, Yes, she needs and has access to mental health services. I have taken her to a community health (& mental) clinic, and I have taken her to a neurologist. and I am trying to get neuropsychological testing done, however That has been one of the most difficult things to get accomplished because I want her insurance to pay for it, but it has said no because it may be associated with a disability claim(?) because I mentioned that she should try to get disability when trying to get one for her. The cost is several thousand dollars. Maybe I need to arrange to pay for this myself. I'm find out that people who truly need help are in a vicious circle trying to find any help, plus the she doesn't admit she has any problems with logic, etc. She is truly at risk from her decisions.

[Javahead in reply to MollyMarie]

I can say I truly understand. I've worked with teenagers who had many mental health issues and when they don't think they need it, that's the worst. The system doesn't help all that much. Do you mind if I ask what state do you live in? I'm in California and I may be able to see if I can find help for her, and you.

[MollyMarie in reply to Javahead]

Texas. I just got off the phone with her Community care case manager and she indicated that there's very little one can do unless it is eldigible for legal action, but if you have any information, please share. Thank you

[hypercat54]

Hi. I looked back on your other 2 posts MollyMarie and wondered if they had been helpful? You didn't respond to any of the replies so I am not sure if you want replies or just want to vent? Either is fine though.

[Existing in reply to hypercat54]

Great response, hypercat

[MollyMarie in reply to hypercat54]

I apologize for not responding. I am having a lot of problem with keeping up with anything and everything. Please see above responses. Many Thanks,

[Existing]

Oh I feel for you, and you sound tired and like you need some relief. I have helped a few homeless people and they can be overwhelming in a very short time. Are you familiar with the types of social services and what help is available in your area?Actually, you could call the 988 crisis line, because they would be able to find resources you might not know of, and that your daughter could use. Yes, she's your family, but this is your life, and you sound like you have paid your dues and more. 988 is what I suggest to start. Just to be able to talk about this with someone who is there to help. Good luck, MollyMarie

[MollyMarie in reply to Existing]

Thank you Existing. I'm working with a community social service as I took my daughter to them for help(over 1 year ago). They are very shorthanded. She's seen a psychiatrise about 3 times. He adjusted her medication, which hasn't helped, I don't know if she takes it right or it's not effective. She's worse, not better (I think). She doesn't necessarily cooperate with anyone trying to help her. I'm going to try to contact another type of doctor for her, to get some type of tests to determine what is really wrong with her. She is my daughter and I love her, I just can't. live with her behavior.

[Existing in reply to MollyMarie]

I'm glad you will continue searching for that help. You truly deserve a "Happy Mothers Day!".

[Existing]

What about group homes?

[MollyMarie in reply to Existing]

The case manager discouraged going to a group home. She just indicated it just wasn't an avenue that was best to follow. (?)I don't know details. That actually sounds like the best avenue if they are well supervised.